Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped

[Tansy_Gold]

24. Please read the essay

It's not about just men who rape with violence or threat of violence -- it's about men who insist on sex even when their partner doesn't want to, or when she isn't capable of giving informed consent. It's about guys who think because they've had sex with her before, they're entitled to have sex with her NOW.

It is the fault of the rapist. Are you suggesting that the sight of a woman in a short skirt or tight pants or a low-cut blouse or alone in a bar renders a man incapable of rational thought and/or control of his penis? If that were the case, then all men would in fact be rapists, and they'd be raping every woman in a short skirt or tight pants every place they see one.

What too many men have been taught -- directly and indirectly -- is that IT'S OKAY to have sex with a woman you pick up in a bar even if she doesn't want to, because if she didn't want to be raped, she wouldn't be in the bar. Therefore, all women in bars have already consented to sex. The only women who don't want sex are the ones not in the bars.

And that's pretty much what you're saying too -- "common sense" steps means women are responsible for their own rape, they need not to dress provocatively or go in bars. I suppose you probably think married women are never raped by their husbands?