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letemrot

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29. I am so sorry.

Mon Nov 26, 2012, 10:49 PM

Nov 2012

I don't have any words.. Eerily, my wife was fired the same day. She actually made more than me; but my salary is enough right now. I wouldn't leave her over that even if we REALLY have to downsize. BUT the stress has prompted some angry arguments with hurtful comments from both sides. I just go outside.. And smoke (big expense, I know) and we both cool off. I wish you all the best. And my thoughts and prayers; if you wish, are with you.

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My hubby & I made approx same salary for 17 years [View all] peacebird Nov 2012 OP

~ Lars39 Nov 2012 #1

Thanks Lars39 peacebird Nov 2012 #3

Sounds like he doesn't appreciate you brush Nov 2012 #49

Ditto x 100,000,000! southerncrone Nov 2012 #55

I found your post painful. I divorced after 27 years and money was virgogal Nov 2012 #2

People can say awful things they don't mean, when they are under duress. He loves you. WinkyDink Nov 2012 #4

People say things they are THINKING when under duress. southerncrone Nov 2012 #57

How encouraging to the OP. WinkyDink Nov 2012 #63

What does he think you should do? Is he cracking under TwilightGardener Nov 2012 #5

Heartless b------d. narnian60 Nov 2012 #6

Wow!! HUGS!!!!!!!!!! Illinoischick Nov 2012 #7

I have no answers to your specific problems but hope that after 18 yrs its not solely about the $$ riderinthestorm Nov 2012 #8

Thanks Rider, sometimes venting helps. peacebird Nov 2012 #11

That sounds very hopeful, peacebird. elleng Nov 2012 #17

VERY sorry, peacebird. elleng Nov 2012 #9

That's not love, it's control and manipulation. Beacool Nov 2012 #24

Thanks, beacool. elleng Nov 2012 #34

I'm glad that you got away from him. Beacool Nov 2012 #53

Thanks again. elleng Nov 2012 #59

It sounds like he is stressed out ohheckyeah Nov 2012 #10

I'm so sorry! abelenkpe Nov 2012 #12

So very sorry roody Nov 2012 #13

My shallow, trite answer would be to take the job Sheldon Cooper Nov 2012 #14

I like that idea, elleng Nov 2012 #16

Thanks. I think by calling it shallow and trite I was just Sheldon Cooper Nov 2012 #21

Stress and financial struggles can really bring out the worst in people etherealtruth Nov 2012 #15

Awww hugs! LeftyLucy22 Nov 2012 #18

Welcome to DU! hrmjustin Nov 2012 #19

Thanks! Good to be here! LeftyLucy22 Nov 2012 #35

terrible shame. When you should pull together, you rurallib Nov 2012 #20

I'm terribly sorry, Peacebird. Beacool Nov 2012 #22

We have not had a huge arguement like this for over a decade. We love & appreciate each other. peacebird Nov 2012 #27

OK, so this is not his normal behavior. Beacool Nov 2012 #28

I agree... LiberalFighter Nov 2012 #36

Yes, it's difficult to determine without knowing the details or the people involved. Beacool Nov 2012 #38

Agreed Sherman A1 Nov 2012 #61

peacebird, I wish you the very best. loudsue Nov 2012 #60

Financial stress is cause to get upset, but not say "there's the door" Hippo_Tron Nov 2012 #23

omg that must hurt. I am soooo sorry. Whisp Nov 2012 #25

All I can offer is hugs Smilo Nov 2012 #26

I am so sorry. letemrot Nov 2012 #29

I hope the outcome is whatever is best for you. Squinch Nov 2012 #30

He may want to take back what he said later. LiberalAndProud Nov 2012 #31

Thank you. I hope the Richmond job comes though, tho it is not one I want. peacebird Nov 2012 #37

Please, please go for couples' counseling. Nye Bevan Nov 2012 #32

Hugs nadinbrzezinski Nov 2012 #33

When my husband lost his job some time ago, there was badhair77 Nov 2012 #39

During a crisis, sometimes you find out how strong your relationship is. I hope things work out. Michigan Alum Nov 2012 #40

How long has it been since he said this? senseandsensibility Nov 2012 #41

Just before 8 this evening... I hope he will be more himself tomorrow...... peacebird Nov 2012 #43

So it hasn't been long at all. senseandsensibility Nov 2012 #47

There needs to be flexibility in the marriage. LiberalFighter Nov 2012 #42

So sorry Liberalynn Nov 2012 #44

I'm sorry you're going through this bad time. Baitball Blogger Nov 2012 #45

Oh wow gollygee Nov 2012 #46

I'm afraid some people have maladaptive responses to stress TheOther95Percent Nov 2012 #48

My hugs and prayers to you... but take the door of opportunity panAmerican Nov 2012 #50

I am sorry quakerboy Nov 2012 #51

Ouch ismnotwasm Nov 2012 #52

A change in finances can create a lot of problems sometimes... kentuck Nov 2012 #54

(((((((peacebird))))))) WillyT Nov 2012 #56

You know the man better than we do. Is this remotely expected from him? He could be under some bluestate10 Nov 2012 #58

Spam deleted by OKNancy (MIR Team) aadhirasharma4 Nov 2012 #62

I won't comment on your husbands behavior CanonRay Nov 2012 #64