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shrike3

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23. As a stepmother myself, I can't imagine A)dealing with a burglary after losing my husband
Fri Apr 26, 2024, 06:49 PM
Apr 26

B) Finding out the burglar was a stepchild.

Second wifehood can be a tough gig. Like it or not, you're a latecomer to the family and some people treat you as such. OTOH, some new wives make it hard on themselves. There was a reddit thread about a first wife being asked to take her maiden name back because her ex's fiance wanted to be the only Mrs. so-and-so. If you're that insecure, you have no business stepping into an established family.

Then again, there was a situation where the daughter of a newly-deceased man tried to insist there must be no mention whatsoever of her dad's second wife in his obituary. Only her late mother, she said, should be mentioned. Naturally the widow was upset and the obituary ended up not running. Wonder if Mitchell's dad was a widower when he married, or if there was a contentious divorce.

I can't even imagine what went on between Mitchell and her stepmom. Must have been a major fallout, a major breakdown in communication for this to happen. Or just an acrimonious relationship that lasted throughout the marriage. I'm trying to be understanding, but a burglary is no way to handle.

"retrieving Father's ashes from Stepmother's home''' yeah, quite the inexplicable 'scandal' there... hlthe2b Apr 26 #1
Agree. There's no reason at all for the dad's surviving life partner to want those ashes. Bucky Apr 26 #3
Your post seems dripping with sarcasm. I dont' know this person--just commenting on how I'd feel hlthe2b Apr 26 #4
(mostly making fun of myself) Bucky Apr 26 #20
Legally they are the widow's, without a will they will go to the surviving partner ripcord Apr 26 #7
Oh, give it a break. I am only saying there is grief involved--not defending her becoming a class A burgler. hlthe2b Apr 26 #9
You asked who had more claim than the biological daughter and I told you the law ripcord Apr 26 #11
I am speaking morally. Legal rights do not always differentiate. hlthe2b Apr 26 #12
How can you decide what is moral if you don't have any facts? ripcord Apr 26 #13
I mentioned this in the post(s) you did not read. hlthe2b Apr 26 #14
Of course, no jumping to conclusions at all ripcord Apr 26 #15
Well, I could certainly say the same for you... hlthe2b Apr 26 #16
Being "one of us" doesn't absolve her. Ocelot II Apr 26 #2
Exactly sarisataka Apr 26 #6
She wore all black clothing and entered through a window, Croney Apr 26 #5
agree Bucky Apr 26 #21
My ethics are not situational sarisataka Apr 26 #8
No one argues... but fingerwagging in such situations where grief is obviously at play is low rent hlthe2b Apr 26 #10
Regardless of her motives, she's certainly fucked up the DFL trifecta; the senate is now 33-33. WhiskeyGrinder Apr 26 #17
No matter what party I would actually give the benefit of the doubt chowder66 Apr 26 #18
Why would someone want to retrieve their parent's ashes in such a manner? LeftInTX Apr 26 #19
It's grief. It makes us do dumb things. Bucky Apr 26 #22
As a stepmother myself, I can't imagine A)dealing with a burglary after losing my husband shrike3 Apr 26 #23
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