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In reply to the discussion: Of bears and men: How big does a risk have to be before you "have to" walk around scared? [View all]Silent3
(15,623 posts)167. So PoindexterOglethorpe didn't get it, like you do, when she replied to me?
She missed what was clear to you, and failed to attack the heartless mansplainer as was required to protect her fellow women?
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Of bears and men: How big does a risk have to be before you "have to" walk around scared? [View all]
Silent3
May 7
OP
There's no animosity here, just wondering how much women are self-terrifying themselves...
Silent3
May 7
#10
"On average, there are 463,634 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States."
viva la
May 7
#94
Statistics also fall short of reality. If you don't know that yet, it's time you learned.
wnylib
May 8
#170
I remember when a man-friend explained to me that menstrual cramps came from being anxious---
viva la
May 7
#126
You are mansplaining, not being "empathetic. " As you're a DUer since the beginning, I expect more of you.
Hekate
May 7
#62
I'm bringing up a tricky topic that I know a lot of people would steer clear of, not "mansplaining"
Silent3
May 7
#66
Why don't you make a new post about how black men should stop exaggerating the risks
Crunchy Frog
May 7
#148
If a black man were choosing, say, being in a locked room with a hungry lion rather than an average cop...
Silent3
May 8
#174
You never said anything in your previous posts about being locked in a room with a hungry bear or lion.
Crunchy Frog
May 8
#220
Actual bears can usually be scared off. When hiking in Glacier Park a few years ago
Ocelot II
May 8
#264
If you're not female, your real world risks are not the same as a woman's real world experiences
wnylib
May 7
#111
There was a bestseller in the 70s about a woman moving out to the woods and having an affair with a bear
AZSkiffyGeek
May 8
#308
But ... but ... but ... STATISTICS AND BEARS! We're not only getting worked up about nothing, we're stupid too!
betsuni
May 8
#205
Okay, for the lulz, let me point out that we don't usually let bears on the subway.
viva la
May 8
#158
Women are routinely harassed, raped, and/or killed. What do you want? Prurient details? Hm?
Hekate
May 7
#47
My OP clearly makes in plain I'm talking about the "degree to which women reasonably feel unsafe"
Silent3
May 7
#106
What makes you think you know anything about the degree to which women feel unsafe?
Scrivener7
May 7
#131
So you've heard women talk about feeling unsafe and you figured you'd school all of us about
Scrivener7
May 7
#137
So, what's the point of discussing anything with someone who takes that attitude?
Silent3
May 8
#156
So this is you "talking us down?" Seriously dude, I think you don't understand just
Scrivener7
May 7
#35
The things on which you have based this whole discussion on, the man vs. bear discussion and the
Scrivener7
May 7
#115
"You are the one who made the irrational assumption that women's use of precautions amount to a 'self-torment'"
Silent3
May 7
#118
Nope. It's not. It's you making the irrational assumption that the precautions women take
Scrivener7
May 7
#122
Nope. I'm not. The man vs. bear discussion is about choosing a lesser danger. The
Scrivener7
May 7
#130
Do you understand that this is a cruel and disgusting comment to make to a victim
Scrivener7
May 7
#55
Previous to this thread, I was one of the few who said the man, but now I want to make a caveat: not the OP.
Scrivener7
May 8
#254
The question is assault out of the blue in the kind of situation the bear/man thing is about. n/t
Silent3
May 7
#14
Thank you for being one of the few women who doesn't see my post itself as an attack
Silent3
May 7
#17
I don't think either of us has real stats here... no sure where I'd even look for them
Silent3
May 7
#21
Men just don't know the fear because they feel reasonably safe everywhere they go.
Diamond_Dog
May 7
#18
And let's just realize that someone who thinks this way on a jury-- or a judge at the trial
viva la
May 7
#103
All it takes is that one time being there in that place, that time when the opportunity presents itself to a predator.
betsuni
May 8
#155
But I also have to imagine how likely it is that a foot-taller man is going to grab me
Silent3
May 7
#22
The question going around the internet is about meeting a bear vs. meeting a man while alone in the woods
Silent3
May 7
#38
Is there a certain level of assault by strangers in one's home, on a campus, and/or in a public place
Sparkly
May 7
#57
The statistics I've seen say that one in five women will be raped at some point in their lives.
thucythucy
May 7
#40
Yes, "free range parenting" is exactly the kind of analogy that fits the kind of point I'm trying to make n/t
Silent3
May 7
#91
LOL! The level of your projection is hilarious. Again, I'm going to guess you don't see the irony in this.
Scrivener7
May 8
#213
Not assiduously avoiding, just took that as a rhetorical question, plus having a lot of posts to respond to
Silent3
May 7
#85
So you did take precautions against encountering people who could do damage to you.
Scrivener7
May 7
#90
Women don't "walk around scared"- we are aware of our surroundings and potential predators at every moment
ms liberty
May 7
#86
I think you've mansplained enough. If you're still this clueless now, you're never gonna get it.
ms liberty
May 8
#235
I have done all those things, and I'm a guy. Only a few times, but I have done them. My wife has too, and says her
Doodley
May 7
#97
Means women are emotional and stupid and "demonize men" for no reason, men are rational and think about STATISTICS.
betsuni
May 8
#217
Why would anyone get defensive about women's experiences? Women "get all worked up about" "demonizing men"?
betsuni
May 8
#175
Chance of being injured by a bear is 1 in 2.1 million. Chance of a woman being sexually assaulted is 1 in 4.
meadowlander
May 8
#182
The bear/man choice is about a single situation in which you will encounter one or the other
Silent3
May 8
#183
The "absurd hypothetical" isn't my absurd hypothetical. It's been making the rounds of the internet.
Silent3
May 8
#186
Oh, well if it's been going around the internet, then I guess we have to engage with it seriously.
meadowlander
May 8
#199
Absolutely! Argument reponere Meme is enshrined in most Citical Thought text books (3rd editions and up)
Torchlight
May 8
#322
Chance of being sexually assaulted by a bear is also far less than that of being mauled by a man.
PeaceWave
May 8
#297
Being in an airplane or car crash or a fire is horrible, but it's death. Being raped or murdered is torture
betsuni
May 8
#257
I realized early on that what he really wants is prurient details. I suggest people stop giving them to him....
Hekate
May 8
#310
The male human animal or the animal type genus Ursus? The human male. Easier to gut. If necessary, of course.
Solly Mack
May 8
#309