No! For men, rape is NOT the default.

[Prism]

16. I think you've touched upon it.

Men are socialized to treat sexuality differently. There is no universal rule, of course. What I'm indifferent towards can be deeply scarring to others. And the incidents I refer to did not involve violent penetration of any kind. I'm pretty sure if I woke up bleeding and sore, I would feel much differently towards what happened.

But even so, there is definitely a kind of acceptance among some portion of men. A fait accompli, almost. "Well, you were drunk with a guy. Of course something happened." And it's viewed as a kind of "Well, that's how the world works."

But I can say with a fair degree of certainty that my fifteen year old self would not feel that way. This odd shift in sexual thinking seems to have coalesced somewhere in that 18-22 zone.

Which is why I think you see such a problem with college students. It's like a cultural switch is being thrown, with terrible consequences.