No! For men, rape is NOT the default.

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52. Men can't get pregnant

That's definitely part of the calculus.

Yeah, there are STD considerations, but I don't think it's on the same order of what a woman has to fear.

But you raise the point Bonobo did about how men and women feel differently about sex. At the end of the day, a lot of men feel that any sex is a "point scored" or as you put it, ice cream. But what shapes that perception? Is it the power balance? Men don't typically fear being raped, so I wonder if there isn't still some measure of power being retained. Whereas women tend to fear that kind of black-out encounter, and it often creates a feeling of violation and powerlessness.

It's a tricky needle to thread, but I'm convinced why some men feel justified or at least have rationalized it to themselves enough to commit rape is traced into that cultural view of how we're socialized to see sex. And I think our adolescent peers are playing a big role in that socialization.