No! For men, rape is NOT the default.

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53. but logically there is a consideration

By which I mean, if I drink and wake up to find myself having sex with a woman, SHE could get pregnant. And if she did, in some ways that would ruin my life. Suddenly, what, 15 or 20% of my paycheck would be taken away for the next 18 years - unless I became a fugitive. Heck, even in situations where the sex is fully consensual, it is a consideration. I saw my brother go through the wringer when his girlfriend told him a couple times she was late. He was practically suicidal, saw himself as doomed.

It was certainly a consideration in the case where I turned down my opportunity for sex. I did not want to be paying to that woman for the next 18 years, and also did not trust her to be a good mother. I was barely making a living as it was, and that was mostly true for the next twenty years. http://www.democraticunderground.com/1002625762

So I took a pass on something I expected to be quite pleasurable. If the situation was reversed, it would not have slowed me down. That is, if she was a man, and I a woman, I would not have let fear of pregnancy stop me from having sex.