are always admonished to change their behavior (or even told their behavior was the cause of the attack ie: blame the victim), while no one asks the "wolves" / perpetrators to change their behavior and no one blames them for their own behavior, least of all the legal system.
No one - absolutely no one - can control another person's behavior. They can only control their own. It's too bad that society and the legal system does not require behavioral control from abusers/criminals - but rather only from their victims.
Maybe that is a clue as to why these types of crimes have never decreased. No one expects them to completely stop, but the incidence - particularly of rape - has only increased.
Only when it hurts violent offenders to hurt other people, only when THEY are told THEY must change their OWN behavior or be hurt themselves (professionally, academically, legally or financially), will these types of crimes even begin to decrease.
One thing I've learned in this world: there is only ONE thing that stops abusive or violent offenders and that is when it hurts THEM to hurt someone else. It's the only thing they understand - their own well-being. When THAT is threatened, they become big chickenshits - and they stop.
Too bad our society and legal system instead chooses to encourage and protect violent offenders rather than holding them responsible for their own behavior. Particularly racists, homophobes, and rapists, but also abusive partners and spouses, as well.
It's a bassackwards world we live in.
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