Meet the Predators (men need to learn how to recognize and fight rape culture)

[TeamsterDem]

27. Sorry, but most men have literally ZERO to do with this "rape culture" of which the author speaks

Most men don't sit around chatting about how a drunken lady represents a viable "target" of some sort. Most men don't talk about "bros before hos" as some reference to "help me keep this rape on the QT," but instead as "let's not argue over this person" with respect to who she likes or if some unrequited love exists in the circle. And thankfully I've never heard a single man tell me a "rape joke," nor have I ever heard a "woman-hating" joke. I've heard jokes with references to stereotypes about men and women, but I've never heard a joke which betrayed hatred ... for that would no longer be a joke, instead a statement of hate.

The author presumes that all or at least most men are somehow enablers of rapists. We're not. If I hypothetically discovered that my best friend had raped a woman the only delay time from time of discovery to time of call to 911 would be the amount of time it took to remove my phone from my pocket and dial the numbers. Similarly, if I discovered that a friend of mine were denying women job advancements or hiring them I would report that to the EOC and Labor Board.

In short, we're not all the same. We dislike being stereotyped just as much as women dislike it; just as much as any group dislikes being told that THEY bear some responsibility or complicity for what a distinct minority of their group do. I've never raped or otherwise assailed any woman, just as I wouldn't support or in any way condone a friend or colleague who did. We don't need a lecture about how to act and what or what not to support. The vast majority of us already know very well how to conduct ourselves, thank you.