Meet the Predators (men need to learn how to recognize and fight rape culture)

[TeamsterDem]

178. Dear Lord. You can't be that dense, can you?

I simply avoid people that seem like their attitudes and beliefs wouldn't be a good fit with mine. I avoid people who act like criminals, people who act like partiers (not because I judge them, but because I'm not one and we wouldn't have anything in common), men who look like misogynists (we all know "that guy," the one who gives off that air of being a gift to women), and people like you who refuse to see another person's point of view in some myopic pursuit of justification for your own viewpoints.

It's something we all do when we meet people: We might not just their "worth" as a person, but in terms of hanging around with them socially we make other judgments about them which are "informed" by our own values and beliefs. You do it, I do it, everyone does it. Luckily I've chosen mostly well, although that's not to say always. But by intentionally not hanging around with the "studs" I've managed to avoid having to call the police when they brag about raping someone, or having to hear their bullshit "conquest" stories that I've no interest in nor any respect for. You can try to say that's some fantastical trait except of course that all people make those judgments and typically, when they choose to avoid a certain "caliber" of people, they do. Not always, but if you make a conscious effort at avoiding friends who're scumbags you'd be surprised at how few scumbags you count as friends.

You don't owe me any niceties, and I don't take any offense that you didn't give me any.