Meet the Predators (men need to learn how to recognize and fight rape culture)

[Springslips]

220. No reason to be unnerve.

The toxic mess this thread has become is do to knee jerk reactions of dueling insecurities. If people would take a moment, settle their primal brain and activate their higher rationing, they would see they are talking pass each other on many thing. Also, and though I don't buy in to "man are from Mars and women are from Venus crap" studies do show that the genders in general, process and use language in a bit different ways. If you study the thread, you can see fights breaking out on the basis of small different interpretation of a word or phrase.

Anyways, I am a man, hopefully a good DU man, and I felt the OP post was meaningful and enlightening. When I was younger I knew guys that was into a culture of rape. I didn't know they were doing it at the time, nor would I every have sex without 100 percent consent. I never went to parties with them, nor was I ever with them socially except on a couple after work ,have a drink occasions.The idiots, would say things, tell sick women hating jokes, and make lewd comments about women, but not too often. Not to me at least, they were usually one offs, side comments, I wouldn't react and they wouldn't continue, and I was too young to know the toxicity of it.

Here is what the article is missing: what those jerks were doing was pinging me with their side comments to see if I was "their kind of guy." When I didn't return the correct feedback they didn't continue. See these guys live in a closed bubble and don't let the 'non-oriented' into their sick world.

Victims of rape needs all the compassion, especially self compassion, that they can handle. Not only should guys call out rapist when we find them and we should call out sick jokes, comments and memes. Everyone should totally support victims without judgment so they are comfortable with reporting. Guys need to report when they know about others.

Finally, there are women out there who indulge rapist with friendships, jokes, comments and memes too. I am sure we all know some. So it is not all a men responsibility, the culture of rape isn't a all male thing; although men are the vast majority.

This problem is huge, will be hard to fight, but lets stop arguing and gather together to fight this beast.

Edit: multiple style, grammar, and mechanical mistakes. Some still exist, but typing on smart phones suck.