Meet the Predators (men need to learn how to recognize and fight rape culture)

[bettyellen]

230. it makes me think of my cousin, I remember how he'd have people wincing with some of the nasty shit

that came out of his mouth. He;d pick up on it, and always try to mitigate the nastiness somehow. But he was an expert manipulator, big time alpha male party animal and didn't seem to lose many friends.
I think his peak was at a family dinner at Thanksgiving, when he talked about a gal (disabled with drink) who had "pulled a train". When someone called him on how disturbing his amusement (and possible participation) was, he claimed the girl didn't mind because she'd already fucked the most vile stupid guy they knew (a friend), so what was the big deal if it was 5-6 more guys? Her rep was already trashed for having bad judgment to try and date his friend. Fascinating rationalization. For dessert his girlfriend described a vacation where she passed out and cant remember how she ended up in bed the next day, and an abortion she had. This at a family dinner meeting her date's parents and family for the first time! So I'd say that was a crazy little culture clash, to say the least.
I had long known my cousin was a sociopath, but I think that Thanksgiving was the first time my brothers were clued in. He's a raging alcoholic now, barely functional since his forties, and I'm glad of it. The less he's out and about, the better.