The rape threads point to a larger need...revolutionary change in what it is to be "a man".

[lumberjack_jeff]

44. "It's on us men"? Okay, well here's the starting point: award child custody to fathers.

The father in the home is a protective factor for all forms of violence for kids, improves educational outcomes and is particularly effective at instilling a moral code in boys. Unfortunately, one third of kids live in a home with an alienated father.

http://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/usermanuals/fatherhood/chaptertwo.cfm
http://www.fatherhood.org/media/consequences-of-father-absence-statistics

The problem isn't masculinity, the problem is in the form idealized in popular entertainment. My dad was a real man, he could regularly carry a #100 pound sack of cement on each shoulder. My neighbor was a real man, he could diagnose and fix anything. My HS english teacher was a real man, he could inspire people through word and deed and although shorter than many of his students, wouldn't put up with kids bullying one another at all. My son's gay best friend is a real man, he's about 6" taller than me and weight about 270#. He's gentle to a fault and works 70 hours a week driving truck to support him and his partner.

The definition of masculinity is flexible enough to encompass all four. I don't see any compelling need to make them conform to your masculine archetype. At any rate, rape isn't a masculine attribute.

If your intent was to make an lecture OP directed exclusively at men, it might have been useful to post it in the men's group. If your intent was to troll for recommends, then you made the better choice.