The rape threads point to a larger need...revolutionary change in what it is to be "a man".

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105. "My issue"

And here I was thinking that rape was a universal issue.

First, my comment was a response to yours, not the OP. I didn't reply to the OP and say "let's not talk about that, let's talk about other things." I replied to your comment, "we really cannot escape the fact that rape is 98% done by men," and pointed out the problems made by that statement.

Your attitude that your comment is fine to make, but anyone that takes issue with that comment is trying to derail the conversation, smacks more of trying to silence dissent than following the rules.

Second, this sentence:

"Seriously- if it's not your issue- violence against women- that's okay. If you're doing all this great advocacy or research about violence against men feel free to start a thread."

is just wrong, even if you think staying on topic means to not deviate from the OP at all.

Third, I think that the cultural idea of masculinity is a big reason why people tend to be dismissive of rape against men, and it's not insignificant in the issue of female on female rape either.

And I should point out, once again, that though you think this is "my issue," I had no interest in bringing this up with the OP. My comment was a responsive to what seemed to be a dismissive comment in your post, which I felt was important to point out.