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H2O Man

(79,056 posts)
23. Yes, of course.
Sun Jul 28, 2024, 08:45 PM
Jul 2024

While I would hesitate to think I know enough to judge anyone else's financial reality, it is true that there are many people with Eeyore Personality Disorder. As the OP speaks of how to deal with them, the answer is actually easy. It is important to recognize that they are like Picasso and Rembrandt, true artists at complaining. And they find great pleasure in complaining. It does not cause them distress, rather, they make those around them suffer listening to them.

Deep down, they are happy. They are not going to change. Hence, the best thing one can do is avoid them, and not engage with them. That, of course, isn't always possible. There may be one in the family that calls to say there were no green olives in the grocery store, and they blame Biden. In such instances, seek to limit communications to telephone calls. When they call, simply ask, "What's new?" Then you can set the phone down for 25 minutes before picking it up and saying, "Oh, gosh!" And again every 25 minutes. This will make both of people happy.

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I'm not... but I'd guess about half need a hope and fact-based approach, some are already to go, and hlthe2b Jul 2024 #1
It's a tough nut to crack, because MAGATs are really in NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #2
OR Skittles Jul 2024 #3
They can't wonder because they can't think NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #5
they think stuff that is WRONG all the time Skittles Jul 2024 #6
Reality is more complex than they are willing to engage. NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #8
Right. H2O Man Jul 2024 #11
correct Skittles Jul 2024 #13
While I think you are correct regarding many people actually struggling, RandomNumbers Jul 2024 #19
Yes. This. NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #21
Yes, of course. H2O Man Jul 2024 #23
You've described a lot of Trumpers. yardwork Jul 2024 #37
We need to reach the 1/3 of the population orthoclad Jul 2024 #14
Don't overthink it. (Dems do this) usonian Jul 2024 #4
If you haven't already, you should make this a thread. TwilightZone Jul 2024 #9
Sadly, the couch jokes are more effective orthoclad Jul 2024 #15
There needs to be a balance. TwilightZone Jul 2024 #26
"liberals, Democrats, left-leaning independents" don't need orthoclad Jul 2024 #29
Done it, but things get lost in the flood of posts. usonian Jul 2024 #16
great post! Celerity Jul 2024 #10
The thing is you can tell all of us Tree Lady Jul 2024 #7
We need to tell the fact that half of inflation orthoclad Jul 2024 #17
Totally true corporate greed Tree Lady Jul 2024 #24
Shrinkflation too. My wife and I were just observing that dobleremolque Jul 2024 #30
Point the fingers at the ruling class! orthoclad Jul 2024 #32
Odd Zoomie1986 Jul 2024 #28
"tell a better story." orthoclad Jul 2024 #12
I agree Mz Pip Jul 2024 #18
and "Beat the cheat" orthoclad Jul 2024 #20
Fryer the Liar Clouds Passing Jul 2024 #36
I wish we could say fuck their feelings dsp3000 Jul 2024 #22
Find common points of entry Sympthsical Jul 2024 #25
It's republican policies that are hurting voters proud patriot Jul 2024 #27
Trump appeals because it's easier to make people feel afraid than to make them feel secure. meadowlander Jul 2024 #31
Not by fucking them, that is for sure. RockRaven Jul 2024 #33
It isn't psychology that is needed, because it isn't feelings. Ms. Toad Jul 2024 #34
Wasn't that long ago that half the country was living pay check to pay check. We'd be worse under trump, Silent Type Jul 2024 #35
Maybe the narrative should be less "telling them a story" SomedayKindaLove Jul 2024 #38
It's not feelings, it's truth. alarimer Jul 2024 #39
To paraphrase Donald Rumsfeld "you go to the election with the voters you have" brooklynite Jul 2024 #40
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