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Sympthsical

(10,969 posts)
25. Find common points of entry
Sun Jul 28, 2024, 08:57 PM
Jul 2024

Don't get in their face with, "You're wrong! According to CNN . . ." Because people shut down with that kind of confrontational approach.

Instead, find some things to agree on. You mention housing. Housing costs are skyrocketing. Agree with that. And then explain why Democratic policy is better than Republican.

You cannot dictate to people they don't feel how they feel. You have to accept they feel that way. Rather than a "No, but" engage in conversation with a "Yes, and." Housing costs too high? Well, the End Hedge Fund Control of American Homes Act is currently in Congress. It would halt Wall Street from buying up all the houses and jacking the prices.

Groceries getting more expensive. Don't go with, "No they're not!" (Which I've seen here on DU, which is just unbelievable). Explain, "Yes, and the Biden administration has been fixing supply chain problems, and here's how Harris would go further."

You're going to have to agree with the premise, then redirect it to the waters you want them to swim in.

I know the internet loves, "NO YOU'RE WRONG!!!!" But actual human beings, in real life, do not respond to that sort of thing.

People set themselves up as oppositional and confrontational, and then they go full surprised Pikachu when they're met with opposition. How did that happen? Les mysteres.

Remember, you're trying to persuade - not browbeat.

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I'm not... but I'd guess about half need a hope and fact-based approach, some are already to go, and hlthe2b Jul 2024 #1
It's a tough nut to crack, because MAGATs are really in NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #2
OR Skittles Jul 2024 #3
They can't wonder because they can't think NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #5
they think stuff that is WRONG all the time Skittles Jul 2024 #6
Reality is more complex than they are willing to engage. NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #8
Right. H2O Man Jul 2024 #11
correct Skittles Jul 2024 #13
While I think you are correct regarding many people actually struggling, RandomNumbers Jul 2024 #19
Yes. This. NewHendoLib Jul 2024 #21
Yes, of course. H2O Man Jul 2024 #23
You've described a lot of Trumpers. yardwork Jul 2024 #37
We need to reach the 1/3 of the population orthoclad Jul 2024 #14
Don't overthink it. (Dems do this) usonian Jul 2024 #4
If you haven't already, you should make this a thread. TwilightZone Jul 2024 #9
Sadly, the couch jokes are more effective orthoclad Jul 2024 #15
There needs to be a balance. TwilightZone Jul 2024 #26
"liberals, Democrats, left-leaning independents" don't need orthoclad Jul 2024 #29
Done it, but things get lost in the flood of posts. usonian Jul 2024 #16
great post! Celerity Jul 2024 #10
The thing is you can tell all of us Tree Lady Jul 2024 #7
We need to tell the fact that half of inflation orthoclad Jul 2024 #17
Totally true corporate greed Tree Lady Jul 2024 #24
Shrinkflation too. My wife and I were just observing that dobleremolque Jul 2024 #30
Point the fingers at the ruling class! orthoclad Jul 2024 #32
Odd Zoomie1986 Jul 2024 #28
"tell a better story." orthoclad Jul 2024 #12
I agree Mz Pip Jul 2024 #18
and "Beat the cheat" orthoclad Jul 2024 #20
Fryer the Liar Clouds Passing Jul 2024 #36
I wish we could say fuck their feelings dsp3000 Jul 2024 #22
Find common points of entry Sympthsical Jul 2024 #25
It's republican policies that are hurting voters proud patriot Jul 2024 #27
Trump appeals because it's easier to make people feel afraid than to make them feel secure. meadowlander Jul 2024 #31
Not by fucking them, that is for sure. RockRaven Jul 2024 #33
It isn't psychology that is needed, because it isn't feelings. Ms. Toad Jul 2024 #34
Wasn't that long ago that half the country was living pay check to pay check. We'd be worse under trump, Silent Type Jul 2024 #35
Maybe the narrative should be less "telling them a story" SomedayKindaLove Jul 2024 #38
It's not feelings, it's truth. alarimer Jul 2024 #39
To paraphrase Donald Rumsfeld "you go to the election with the voters you have" brooklynite Jul 2024 #40
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