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109. You seem all ready to be outraged so I'll try not to burst your bubble terribly...

Fri Dec 7, 2012, 08:19 PM

Dec 2012

It isn't that I believe there there shouldn't be deviation from traditional roles.

It is that there is just as much benefit in them as non-traditional ones. A boy who plays with Army stuff, joins Boy Scouts and plays football can grow up into a functioning valuable member of society. A girl who plays with Barbie and EZ-bake and baby dolls can grow up to be a functioning valuable member of society. We shouldn't look down our noses at people who follow the "old school" gender roles as unenlightened.

The point of my post was to say that we shouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater. The woman in the OP feels that she is looked down upon for assuming "traditional" feminine interests and I believe that there is value in what she has chosen.

I'm a live and let live kind of guy...

Have a lovely evening...

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Is it true? "How Pinterest Is Killing Feminism" [View all] FrodosPet Dec 2012 OP

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Indeed. I am partial to crocheting and baking. AND I am a fire-breathing feminist. kestrel91316 Dec 2012 #102

The answer is "no" Spider Jerusalem Dec 2012 #2

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I like your post. dballance Dec 2012 #89

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That's what I want to think as well FrodosPet Dec 2012 #7

RadFem, eh? obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #28

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Idiotic ideas.. sendero Dec 2012 #8

+10 RC Dec 2012 #56

^^this n/t TroglodyteScholar Dec 2012 #66

what a fucking piece of trash of an article cali Dec 2012 #9

+1 Matariki Dec 2012 #86

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And the skills here are equal opportunity Tsiyu Dec 2012 #76

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Feminism that doesn't acknowledge just resource use is not true feminism. antigone382 Dec 2012 #106

You are correct but how "not sexy" Tsiyu Dec 2012 #117

I like Pinterest clyrc Dec 2012 #11

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Fail, fail, and fail again. MadrasT Dec 2012 #37

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did you set your wife straight? we can only hope. wimmins seabeyond Dec 2012 #54

About what? Lightbulb_on Dec 2012 #60

Inferred and extrapolated, rather than "observed", I would think... LanternWaste Dec 2012 #82

Definitely observed... Lightbulb_on Dec 2012 #87

Meh. Every person, male and female, should be able to pursue hifiguy Dec 2012 #65

oh, please Tsiyu Dec 2012 #67

The women in my family, if I were to die... Lightbulb_on Dec 2012 #77

Here's your chance Tsiyu Dec 2012 #92

You seem all ready to be outraged so I'll try not to burst your bubble terribly... Lightbulb_on Dec 2012 #109

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My father's family grew up learning to do "male" and "female" things Nikia Dec 2012 #90

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"keeping them in place" Lex Dec 2012 #71

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Exactly. Matariki Dec 2012 #83

Eh gollygee Dec 2012 #14

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"do we work on the self or on society" Tsiyu Dec 2012 #98

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This is good: "Being able to create beautiful things is a source of power, not weakness." Zorra Dec 2012 #27

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These feminist-oriented sites don't help themselves in this matter. GoCubsGo Dec 2012 #18

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Best answer yet! GoneOffShore Dec 2012 #23

Isn't suggesting that traditionally "feminine" interests are inherently bad kind of misogynistic smokey nj Dec 2012 #20

It isn't suggesting they are "bad" gollygee Dec 2012 #24

My question was written in reference to the OP's friend feeling attacked because of her interests smokey nj Dec 2012 #41

Yes. yardwork Dec 2012 #55

If a man were suddenly interested in all these things Shankapotomus Dec 2012 #25

What in the world are you talking about obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #31

Wow, where did you get that? Shankapotomus Dec 2012 #35

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Good to know! Shankapotomus Dec 2012 #36

I would say any woman who ascribes behavior that sufrommich Dec 2012 #40

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no -- that is just ridiculous obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #26

Dumb article. Starry Messenger Dec 2012 #30

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LOL wtmusic Dec 2012 #59

Well, I'm pretty sure I'm a feminist and I've been on Pinterest sufrommich Dec 2012 #33

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are you serious? liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #62

You of course have objective and valid examples not needing any additional qualifiers, yes? LanternWaste Dec 2012 #84

I'm not exactly clear what you're trying to say, but to the other posters, yes I'm serious. Proles Dec 2012 #111

Can I say... Xyzse Dec 2012 #42

Turns out, women like the same stuff on the internet TwilightGardener Dec 2012 #43

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Pinterest is electronic hoarding Horse with no Name Dec 2012 #49

"Pinterest is electronic hoarding" sufrommich Dec 2012 #75

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+1 /nt Proles Dec 2012 #113

stupid all around. why in the world would your smart friend think no knitting for feminist? nt seabeyond Dec 2012 #51

I thought an element of radical feminism was that it's the devaluation DirkGently Dec 2012 #53

the terms traditional feminine and feminism are misleading liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #58

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Ahhhh OK that makes sense Taverner Dec 2012 #79

It's not all stock photos. It's the photo on the page you "tack" Lex Dec 2012 #91

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I think the proper question is why do we have to label... dballance Dec 2012 #80

This is the stupidest article on women's issues I've seen in a long time Matariki Dec 2012 #81

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Actually, I think 'feminism' has freed men to persue whatever interests them Matariki Dec 2012 #85

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Well, shit, I just made a bow for the Christmas wreath on my front door... WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2012 #96

what a bunch of fucking hogwash Skittles Dec 2012 #101

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