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Earth_First

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2. I dated a daughter of wealthy socialites in high school

Sat Dec 8, 2012, 02:51 PM

Dec 2012

It was a strange gig. At the time, sure we 'loved' one another, however looking back now it was just a case of rebellious action on her part; there was no honest respect on her part towards my social upbringing.

I was called upon to take part in the very same dinners and events that you speak of in your OP, it was particularly awkward, as the attitudes and condescending manner in which the staff was treated bothered me greatly; outwardly so and I took it on the chin a few times becoming the center of the joke. One time I walked out on dinner, refusing to reenter and left my significant other to fend for a ride home herself. That was the beginning of the end.

The yacht club, the country club, the estate weddings and vineyard auctions, I saw it all. Thankfully the brief look into this 'lifestyle' was more than I needed for a lifetime of knowing I wanted nothing to do with any of it.

I sympathize with you, just know that I am sure there were some who were simply visiting that lifestyle at the time; not everyone gazed upon you with judgmental eyes and empathized with you.

Thanks for the OP, it's been years since I thought about all that.

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I waited and I waited for help but all the rich people just stared at me and kept eating. [View all] DonRedwood Dec 2012 OP

Omigod. What a horrible work Ilsa Dec 2012 #1

Except, I don`t know about you but I do not feel that I am beneath anyone! Sadiedog Dec 2012 #23

Oh, sorry about the confusion. Ilsa Dec 2012 #86

Thanks for clarifying. Sadiedog Dec 2012 #94

The fucked up thing is... blackspade Dec 2012 #135

I think it is all pretty funny now. I was hoping people would see the humor in it all! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #31

I've waited tables PatSeg Dec 2012 #65

True, and time helps to heal Ilsa Dec 2012 #88

I dated a daughter of wealthy socialites in high school Earth_First Dec 2012 #2

I keep finding my opinion of the wealthy keeps returning to that day DonRedwood Dec 2012 #54

I'm surprised the wealthy even wipe their own arse's, they're useless. JaneyVee Dec 2012 #3

The thing is....they don't care. You can like them or not, it's immaterial to them, you are there monmouth3 Dec 2012 #4

A million years ago when I was in college (the first time) I worked in these places as well. Egalitarian Thug Dec 2012 #5

She was very nice DonRedwood Dec 2012 #12

Yes, and those eyes... Egalitarian Thug Dec 2012 #121

Dang!! Still can't get over the wool jackets & leather soles-insane! narnian60 Dec 2012 #6

I worked for a winter at the Caneel Bay Plantation inthe US V.I. cliffordu Dec 2012 #7

Thank you for sharing that story. surrealAmerican Dec 2012 #8

Probably they thought he was paid well . . . freedom fighter jh Dec 2012 #24

Sad to say, some people just don't care BanzaiBonnie Dec 2012 #72

The problem with most of the rich isn't that they're rich; it's that they're oblivious. gkhouston Dec 2012 #9

OBLIVIOUS, my ass. Texin Dec 2012 #64

They were oblivious to his status as a *person*, as someone warranting attention and assistance. gkhouston Dec 2012 #69

And Texin rides in to my defense! Welcome to DU Texin! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #83

It's much more fundamental . . . GatorLarry Dec 2012 #90

Some were fearful they would lower their own status if they helped a lowly server. hunter Dec 2012 #99

I agree with you. I don't see how you could NOT react with shock and concern for a fellow person's smirkymonkey Dec 2012 #120

Talk about entitlement class. Many wealthy EXPECT free stuff... OneGrassRoot Dec 2012 #10

I was a waitress in a good Fish Restaurant in the Bay Area lunatica Dec 2012 #11

Holy Cow! That is bad. My situation was at least somewhat funny DonRedwood Dec 2012 #16

I remember waiting table at a classic downtown bar to help make ends meet in college. It was kind of freshwest Dec 2012 #100

Did we all start by waiting tables? sheshe2 Dec 2012 #132

Oh my gosh! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #156

I have a much worse story but I won't tell it. And I am very nice to waiters, cooks, etc. freshwest Dec 2012 #157

I wish I would have been there. I would have said loudly. > BlueJazz Dec 2012 #81

'End World Hunger. femrap Dec 2012 #13

It's shame I can only rec this once. 99Forever Dec 2012 #14

Rec this instead then :0) DonRedwood Dec 2012 #53

Consider it done. 99Forever Dec 2012 #59

merci! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #84

That's about the way I see them. Just as they are. lonestarnot Dec 2012 #15

A well told story Don. redwitch Dec 2012 #17

That must be what every homeless person thinks of every one of us. dkf Dec 2012 #18

ouch DonRedwood Dec 2012 #20

I don't disagree. We who have a roof over our heads can Cleita Dec 2012 #77

Your post inspired me to write this.... DonRedwood Dec 2012 #85

The "entitled" class.... Sekhmets Daughter Dec 2012 #19

Fucking A. Eat The Rich. The Health Care Industry is full of this type of stuff. Top Heavy with Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2012 #21

I have always known, since my days as a waitress in a very exclusive place, that you can tell Squinch Dec 2012 #22

+1,000 TomClash Dec 2012 #26

I did the same thing when I was single! if the guy was a jerk to the waiter we were done DonRedwood Dec 2012 #36

You were putting on a show for them TomClash Dec 2012 #25

Or he was a malfunctioning appliance that "someone" needed to take care of. Squinch Dec 2012 #43

lol...my mother has accused me of having a "screw loose" before :0) DonRedwood Dec 2012 #44

Seriously. I worked in a place like that. Squinch Dec 2012 #47

Where were your supervisors? They should have been there immediately to take over. Cleita Dec 2012 #27

I got a huge ration of shit here a few months ago when I said that American coalition_unwilling Dec 2012 #73

I don't care. They can't change what happened to me. n/t Cleita Dec 2012 #76

I was married to one and know many--some are like that, sure. knitter4democracy Dec 2012 #105

my mom had her cataracts operated on recently, by a nice young doctor bedazzled Dec 2012 #154

It's not just the rich. Some rich are decent people and some of us poorer folk are real works. nolabear Dec 2012 #28

Since I lived in a place where there is a glut of really rich people, I have spent a life time Cleita Dec 2012 #32

You should have told her the woman was working FOR tips lunatica Dec 2012 #35

As the poster above said, she had the luxury of not knowing. nolabear Dec 2012 #50

"Working you for a tip: Lordquinton Dec 2012 #61

I wish you could have gone Samuel Jackson on them. lalalu Dec 2012 #29

In picture form: coalition_unwilling Dec 2012 #75

Well written, well told, sad story about America today. mountain grammy Dec 2012 #30

Thanks Grammy! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #42

That you fell and didn't drop the tray is incredible mountain grammy Dec 2012 #147

I don't think you can ever paint with such broad strokes YBR31 Dec 2012 #33

Welcome to DU! And, I agree...unless you have a lot to base your opinion with DonRedwood Dec 2012 #46

Agreed democrattotheend Dec 2012 #107

Several years ago, I did some computer work in the home office... RevStPatrick Dec 2012 #34

weakly in their defense--sometimes in a socially awkward brokechris Dec 2012 #37

Howdy Broke Chris! Welcome to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #89

I can picture it! And I have to say that you are an excellent writer. brokechris Dec 2012 #118

Please, we are not all like that lageorgia Dec 2012 #38

However, meanwhile, although no Democrats ever truedelphi Dec 2012 #52

Welcome to DU lageorga. Glad to have such a nice person on board. Auntie Bush Dec 2012 #60

welcome to DU! renate Dec 2012 #66

Welcome to DU and I hope you enjoy the site. hrmjustin Dec 2012 #78

Welcome! Nice to see a new face from the south! (i'm assuming...what with the Georgia and all) DonRedwood Dec 2012 #114

You should feel grateful to enjoy a club and get paid as well, while they paid so much to attend. TahitiNut Dec 2012 #39

Those rich diners sound like pathetic heartless zombies LiberalEsto Dec 2012 #40

I would not be surprised if many DU members... dchill Dec 2012 #41

Well I know I used to waitress. Sadiedog Dec 2012 #96

WElcome to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #115

Thank you! It`s wonderful to be here! nt Sadiedog Dec 2012 #131

Slightly off point but relates to cluelessness of the well-to-do ... Vox Moi Dec 2012 #45

I would like to welcome you and your old sand to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #48

Shoulda told them to pound sand. nt LiberalEsto Dec 2012 #71

As I was reading this I was picturing Ann Romney sneering down at you. Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #49

:0) That sums it up pretty perfectly!! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #51

I see that the Rich and even some of the not-so-rich have not learned this simple rule. BlueJazz Dec 2012 #55

I worked for a couple of years as a bartender... KansDem Dec 2012 #141

We belonged to a country club where my parents did a lot of stuff like you mention (the lunches, gateley Dec 2012 #56

I think far too many people have a big streak of ugly in them. gkhouston Dec 2012 #97

It is parents like you that keep me from saying "All rich people". :0) They keep me from DonRedwood Dec 2012 #108

My parents were some of the gateley Dec 2012 #136

Horrible, horrible situation. Thanks for sharing your story. spooky3 Dec 2012 #57

We've gone a long way down Turbineguy Dec 2012 #58

So the parts about the 'Classes' in the movie Titanic....it was all true?? Jennylynn Dec 2012 #62

To them we are merely livestock - farm animals, like draft horses or dairy cows. The Velveteen Ocelot Dec 2012 #63

One question: ejbr Dec 2012 #67

LOL!! Fabulous!! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #116

Good! ejbr Dec 2012 #150

Freaking wow! malaise Dec 2012 #68

K&R! Wow! Unbelievable... Rhiannon12866 Dec 2012 #70

Whoever made the infamous Romney "47%" recording The Velveteen Ocelot Dec 2012 #74

I don't disagree for the most part union_maid Dec 2012 #79

So... PopeOxycontinI Dec 2012 #80

hey there, welcome to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #123

Interesting stories - I worked at CCs too Patiod Dec 2012 #82

All I can say is 2naSalit Dec 2012 #87

Long ago, I worked briefly at a country club bar. Once I put out my hand to take someone's money. raccoon Dec 2012 #91

Please read my signature line. rhett o rick Dec 2012 #92

I would never eat the rich. Aristus Dec 2012 #93

Man, I wish I could share easttexaslefty Dec 2012 #95

This is so sad because it is true nadine_mn Dec 2012 #98

I'm in the two percent... dangin Dec 2012 #101

really heaven05 Dec 2012 #104

Whatever you say. 99Forever Dec 2012 #106

But you can't deny that wealth, and the lifestyles that burnsei sensei Dec 2012 #109

Nope dangin Dec 2012 #110

You're not wrong dangin Dec 2012 #111

Thank you for answering. burnsei sensei Dec 2012 #112

Still not dangin Dec 2012 #117

So your stance would be the same as that articulated by burnsei sensei Dec 2012 #149

I'm in the top 2% as well and I disagree with you. lightcameron Dec 2012 #119

I've been here less dangin Dec 2012 #122

I've been on a no fast food diet for a year...I'd kill for that burger! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #124

Wrong again dangin Dec 2012 #126

The OP Got His Point Across Just Fine HangOnKids Dec 2012 #137

wow! heaven05 Dec 2012 #102

my Dad worked for Park Avenue elites, and noted the snobbier cheaper ones were often miserable but bettyellen Dec 2012 #103

You know, I suspect this now. dangin Dec 2012 #113

nope, nope DonRedwood Dec 2012 #125

Our club was a center line main roof ridge. dangin Dec 2012 #127

Is this necessary? Such behavior looks pretty petty. What are you accomplishing by calling OP patrice Dec 2012 #133

Then you were lucky. blackspade Dec 2012 #138

Wow. Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #151

"We did not have station A." LiberalAndProud Dec 2012 #128

Post removed Post removed Dec 2012 #130

not all wealthy respond this way newspeak Dec 2012 #129

My waiting experiences were much the same. blackspade Dec 2012 #134

These are the truly ENTITLED, the ELITE... ReRe Dec 2012 #139

great motto marions ghost Dec 2012 #153

Don't know... ReRe Dec 2012 #155

Can't stand country clubs and the people who frequent them. McCamy Taylor Dec 2012 #140

rich folks and race Steviehh Dec 2012 #142

Great piece. (nt) DirkGently Dec 2012 #143

Although some of the wealthy are not unkind to marions ghost Dec 2012 #144

Rich people see everyone around them as their servants. fasttense Dec 2012 #145

This post JNelson6563 Dec 2012 #146

You have a way with words, what an enlightening story. Thank you for telling it. cpamomfromtexas Dec 2012 #148

This lack of reaction is not just limited to rich people... mark67 Dec 2012 #152

rescuing someone from an oncoming train requires actual danger and courage. there's a fear & HiPointDem Dec 2012 #159

...if you seen the picture rescuing that man would have required a MINIMUM of courage or skill... mark67 Dec 2012 #160

good story. i think most of us have had experiences like that, whether it was being snubbed HiPointDem Dec 2012 #158