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democrattotheend

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107. Agreed

Sat Dec 8, 2012, 08:39 PM

Dec 2012

My grandparents were never fabulously rich by any means, but because they were so frugal during their working lives they retired with a pretty comfortable nest egg. But my grandmother was the most genuinely caring person I knew. She was a bleeding heart liberal in the truest sense of the word - her compassion extended beyond her political activism to her interactions with everyone.

To be fair, they were not the country club rich people you describe here, but they were/are (my grandpa is still alive) pretty well off, at least in their later years, but are/were both wonderful people who cared about the common person.

Stories like this are sickening, but I don't think it's fair to paint an entire class of people as evil even though there are plenty of compassionate rich people. If there weren't, there would be a lot less funding for charities.

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I waited and I waited for help but all the rich people just stared at me and kept eating. [View all] DonRedwood Dec 2012 OP

Omigod. What a horrible work Ilsa Dec 2012 #1

Except, I don`t know about you but I do not feel that I am beneath anyone! Sadiedog Dec 2012 #23

Oh, sorry about the confusion. Ilsa Dec 2012 #86

Thanks for clarifying. Sadiedog Dec 2012 #94

The fucked up thing is... blackspade Dec 2012 #135

I think it is all pretty funny now. I was hoping people would see the humor in it all! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #31

I've waited tables PatSeg Dec 2012 #65

True, and time helps to heal Ilsa Dec 2012 #88

I dated a daughter of wealthy socialites in high school Earth_First Dec 2012 #2

I keep finding my opinion of the wealthy keeps returning to that day DonRedwood Dec 2012 #54

I'm surprised the wealthy even wipe their own arse's, they're useless. JaneyVee Dec 2012 #3

The thing is....they don't care. You can like them or not, it's immaterial to them, you are there monmouth3 Dec 2012 #4

A million years ago when I was in college (the first time) I worked in these places as well. Egalitarian Thug Dec 2012 #5

She was very nice DonRedwood Dec 2012 #12

Yes, and those eyes... Egalitarian Thug Dec 2012 #121

Dang!! Still can't get over the wool jackets & leather soles-insane! narnian60 Dec 2012 #6

I worked for a winter at the Caneel Bay Plantation inthe US V.I. cliffordu Dec 2012 #7

Thank you for sharing that story. surrealAmerican Dec 2012 #8

Probably they thought he was paid well . . . freedom fighter jh Dec 2012 #24

Sad to say, some people just don't care BanzaiBonnie Dec 2012 #72

The problem with most of the rich isn't that they're rich; it's that they're oblivious. gkhouston Dec 2012 #9

OBLIVIOUS, my ass. Texin Dec 2012 #64

They were oblivious to his status as a *person*, as someone warranting attention and assistance. gkhouston Dec 2012 #69

And Texin rides in to my defense! Welcome to DU Texin! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #83

It's much more fundamental . . . GatorLarry Dec 2012 #90

Some were fearful they would lower their own status if they helped a lowly server. hunter Dec 2012 #99

I agree with you. I don't see how you could NOT react with shock and concern for a fellow person's smirkymonkey Dec 2012 #120

Talk about entitlement class. Many wealthy EXPECT free stuff... OneGrassRoot Dec 2012 #10

I was a waitress in a good Fish Restaurant in the Bay Area lunatica Dec 2012 #11

Holy Cow! That is bad. My situation was at least somewhat funny DonRedwood Dec 2012 #16

I remember waiting table at a classic downtown bar to help make ends meet in college. It was kind of freshwest Dec 2012 #100

Did we all start by waiting tables? sheshe2 Dec 2012 #132

Oh my gosh! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #156

I have a much worse story but I won't tell it. And I am very nice to waiters, cooks, etc. freshwest Dec 2012 #157

I wish I would have been there. I would have said loudly. > BlueJazz Dec 2012 #81

'End World Hunger. femrap Dec 2012 #13

It's shame I can only rec this once. 99Forever Dec 2012 #14

Rec this instead then :0) DonRedwood Dec 2012 #53

Consider it done. 99Forever Dec 2012 #59

merci! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #84

That's about the way I see them. Just as they are. lonestarnot Dec 2012 #15

A well told story Don. redwitch Dec 2012 #17

That must be what every homeless person thinks of every one of us. dkf Dec 2012 #18

ouch DonRedwood Dec 2012 #20

I don't disagree. We who have a roof over our heads can Cleita Dec 2012 #77

Your post inspired me to write this.... DonRedwood Dec 2012 #85

The "entitled" class.... Sekhmets Daughter Dec 2012 #19

Fucking A. Eat The Rich. The Health Care Industry is full of this type of stuff. Top Heavy with Tuesday Afternoon Dec 2012 #21

I have always known, since my days as a waitress in a very exclusive place, that you can tell Squinch Dec 2012 #22

+1,000 TomClash Dec 2012 #26

I did the same thing when I was single! if the guy was a jerk to the waiter we were done DonRedwood Dec 2012 #36

You were putting on a show for them TomClash Dec 2012 #25

Or he was a malfunctioning appliance that "someone" needed to take care of. Squinch Dec 2012 #43

lol...my mother has accused me of having a "screw loose" before :0) DonRedwood Dec 2012 #44

Seriously. I worked in a place like that. Squinch Dec 2012 #47

Where were your supervisors? They should have been there immediately to take over. Cleita Dec 2012 #27

I got a huge ration of shit here a few months ago when I said that American coalition_unwilling Dec 2012 #73

I don't care. They can't change what happened to me. n/t Cleita Dec 2012 #76

I was married to one and know many--some are like that, sure. knitter4democracy Dec 2012 #105

my mom had her cataracts operated on recently, by a nice young doctor bedazzled Dec 2012 #154

It's not just the rich. Some rich are decent people and some of us poorer folk are real works. nolabear Dec 2012 #28

Since I lived in a place where there is a glut of really rich people, I have spent a life time Cleita Dec 2012 #32

You should have told her the woman was working FOR tips lunatica Dec 2012 #35

As the poster above said, she had the luxury of not knowing. nolabear Dec 2012 #50

"Working you for a tip: Lordquinton Dec 2012 #61

I wish you could have gone Samuel Jackson on them. lalalu Dec 2012 #29

In picture form: coalition_unwilling Dec 2012 #75

Well written, well told, sad story about America today. mountain grammy Dec 2012 #30

Thanks Grammy! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #42

That you fell and didn't drop the tray is incredible mountain grammy Dec 2012 #147

I don't think you can ever paint with such broad strokes YBR31 Dec 2012 #33

Welcome to DU! And, I agree...unless you have a lot to base your opinion with DonRedwood Dec 2012 #46

Agreed democrattotheend Dec 2012 #107

Several years ago, I did some computer work in the home office... RevStPatrick Dec 2012 #34

weakly in their defense--sometimes in a socially awkward brokechris Dec 2012 #37

Howdy Broke Chris! Welcome to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #89

I can picture it! And I have to say that you are an excellent writer. brokechris Dec 2012 #118

Please, we are not all like that lageorgia Dec 2012 #38

However, meanwhile, although no Democrats ever truedelphi Dec 2012 #52

Welcome to DU lageorga. Glad to have such a nice person on board. Auntie Bush Dec 2012 #60

welcome to DU! renate Dec 2012 #66

Welcome to DU and I hope you enjoy the site. hrmjustin Dec 2012 #78

Welcome! Nice to see a new face from the south! (i'm assuming...what with the Georgia and all) DonRedwood Dec 2012 #114

You should feel grateful to enjoy a club and get paid as well, while they paid so much to attend. TahitiNut Dec 2012 #39

Those rich diners sound like pathetic heartless zombies LiberalEsto Dec 2012 #40

I would not be surprised if many DU members... dchill Dec 2012 #41

Well I know I used to waitress. Sadiedog Dec 2012 #96

WElcome to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #115

Thank you! It`s wonderful to be here! nt Sadiedog Dec 2012 #131

Slightly off point but relates to cluelessness of the well-to-do ... Vox Moi Dec 2012 #45

I would like to welcome you and your old sand to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #48

Shoulda told them to pound sand. nt LiberalEsto Dec 2012 #71

As I was reading this I was picturing Ann Romney sneering down at you. Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #49

:0) That sums it up pretty perfectly!! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #51

I see that the Rich and even some of the not-so-rich have not learned this simple rule. BlueJazz Dec 2012 #55

I worked for a couple of years as a bartender... KansDem Dec 2012 #141

We belonged to a country club where my parents did a lot of stuff like you mention (the lunches, gateley Dec 2012 #56

I think far too many people have a big streak of ugly in them. gkhouston Dec 2012 #97

It is parents like you that keep me from saying "All rich people". :0) They keep me from DonRedwood Dec 2012 #108

My parents were some of the gateley Dec 2012 #136

Horrible, horrible situation. Thanks for sharing your story. spooky3 Dec 2012 #57

We've gone a long way down Turbineguy Dec 2012 #58

So the parts about the 'Classes' in the movie Titanic....it was all true?? Jennylynn Dec 2012 #62

To them we are merely livestock - farm animals, like draft horses or dairy cows. The Velveteen Ocelot Dec 2012 #63

One question: ejbr Dec 2012 #67

LOL!! Fabulous!! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #116

Good! ejbr Dec 2012 #150

Freaking wow! malaise Dec 2012 #68

K&R! Wow! Unbelievable... Rhiannon12866 Dec 2012 #70

Whoever made the infamous Romney "47%" recording The Velveteen Ocelot Dec 2012 #74

I don't disagree for the most part union_maid Dec 2012 #79

So... PopeOxycontinI Dec 2012 #80

hey there, welcome to DU! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #123

Interesting stories - I worked at CCs too Patiod Dec 2012 #82

All I can say is 2naSalit Dec 2012 #87

Long ago, I worked briefly at a country club bar. Once I put out my hand to take someone's money. raccoon Dec 2012 #91

Please read my signature line. rhett o rick Dec 2012 #92

I would never eat the rich. Aristus Dec 2012 #93

Man, I wish I could share easttexaslefty Dec 2012 #95

This is so sad because it is true nadine_mn Dec 2012 #98

I'm in the two percent... dangin Dec 2012 #101

really heaven05 Dec 2012 #104

Whatever you say. 99Forever Dec 2012 #106

But you can't deny that wealth, and the lifestyles that burnsei sensei Dec 2012 #109

Nope dangin Dec 2012 #110

You're not wrong dangin Dec 2012 #111

Thank you for answering. burnsei sensei Dec 2012 #112

Still not dangin Dec 2012 #117

So your stance would be the same as that articulated by burnsei sensei Dec 2012 #149

I'm in the top 2% as well and I disagree with you. lightcameron Dec 2012 #119

I've been here less dangin Dec 2012 #122

I've been on a no fast food diet for a year...I'd kill for that burger! DonRedwood Dec 2012 #124

Wrong again dangin Dec 2012 #126

The OP Got His Point Across Just Fine HangOnKids Dec 2012 #137

wow! heaven05 Dec 2012 #102

my Dad worked for Park Avenue elites, and noted the snobbier cheaper ones were often miserable but bettyellen Dec 2012 #103

You know, I suspect this now. dangin Dec 2012 #113

nope, nope DonRedwood Dec 2012 #125

Our club was a center line main roof ridge. dangin Dec 2012 #127

Is this necessary? Such behavior looks pretty petty. What are you accomplishing by calling OP patrice Dec 2012 #133

Then you were lucky. blackspade Dec 2012 #138

Wow. Arugula Latte Dec 2012 #151

"We did not have station A." LiberalAndProud Dec 2012 #128

Post removed Post removed Dec 2012 #130

not all wealthy respond this way newspeak Dec 2012 #129

My waiting experiences were much the same. blackspade Dec 2012 #134

These are the truly ENTITLED, the ELITE... ReRe Dec 2012 #139

great motto marions ghost Dec 2012 #153

Don't know... ReRe Dec 2012 #155

Can't stand country clubs and the people who frequent them. McCamy Taylor Dec 2012 #140

rich folks and race Steviehh Dec 2012 #142

Great piece. (nt) DirkGently Dec 2012 #143

Although some of the wealthy are not unkind to marions ghost Dec 2012 #144

Rich people see everyone around them as their servants. fasttense Dec 2012 #145

This post JNelson6563 Dec 2012 #146

You have a way with words, what an enlightening story. Thank you for telling it. cpamomfromtexas Dec 2012 #148

This lack of reaction is not just limited to rich people... mark67 Dec 2012 #152

rescuing someone from an oncoming train requires actual danger and courage. there's a fear & HiPointDem Dec 2012 #159

...if you seen the picture rescuing that man would have required a MINIMUM of courage or skill... mark67 Dec 2012 #160

good story. i think most of us have had experiences like that, whether it was being snubbed HiPointDem Dec 2012 #158