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IdaBriggs

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8. So, how can we FIX it? I am at a loss.

Reply to Mariana (Reply #5)

Tue Dec 11, 2012, 10:58 AM

Dec 2012

It is like the bully who is smacking you around shouting "Stop hitting me!"

No one is hitting them. They are hitting others. Why is the bully doing it?

The bully truly believes he is "defending himself" -- while the rest of us are being left bruised and battered going "what the heck just happened?"

How do we Stop the FICTIONAL War? We can't "stop fighting" because WE aren't fighting in the first place.

I think the post that clarified this for me was the one where the woman was just paying for a purchase, and the hostility occurred.

She did nothing wrong. Somebody launched a pre-emptive attack on her.

How do we stop this?

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Communication: 80% Body Language; 15% Tone & 5% Actual Words. [View all] IdaBriggs Dec 2012 OP

This is why emails and internet discussion board messages are so often misinterpreted. NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #1

Tone on a message board - sigh. IdaBriggs Dec 2012 #9

This message was self-deleted by its author ann--- Dec 2012 #2

Hasn't anyone ever said something like "excuse me" to you in a sarcastic manner? LisaLynne Dec 2012 #4

. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2012 #22

Have a nice day! jberryhill Dec 2012 #6

The OP of that thread apparently thought the same thing Mariana Dec 2012 #7

I am not Christian Marrah_G Dec 2012 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author ann--- Dec 2012 #25

Since you did not bother to read what I wrote Marrah_G Dec 2012 #27

Uh, some people -cough-Republicans-cough- don't get the 80% body language. aquart Dec 2012 #3

The people who are saying this kind of thing Mariana Dec 2012 #5

So, how can we FIX it? I am at a loss. IdaBriggs Dec 2012 #8

Well, I complain. Loudly. Z_I_Peevey Dec 2012 #10

You can't control what other people do. Mariana Dec 2012 #13

Ignore all that non-verbal crap FarCenter Dec 2012 #12

If those percentages are actually accurate, SheilaT Dec 2012 #14

The numbers are pretty old/standard reported in different books on communication. IdaBriggs Dec 2012 #17

This is why we Aspies have so much trouble in social situations. Odin2005 Dec 2012 #15

Totally off topic, but on the Aspie side... IdaBriggs Dec 2012 #16

Yes I do! Odin2005 Dec 2012 #20

Seriously, you might want to try the protocol we are using. IdaBriggs Dec 2012 #23

Oh, ain't that the truth. hifiguy Dec 2012 #18

It depends on what you're trying to communicate. hughee99 Dec 2012 #19

Lol! I understand what you are saying - there are different types of communication. IdaBriggs Dec 2012 #24

K & R !!! WillyT Dec 2012 #21

I told my professor "Merry Christmas" and he freaked out Kolesar Dec 2012 #26