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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]MineralMan
(151,274 posts)26. My parents were atheists, so there was no gracing at holiday meals
My wife's parents are Lutherans, of Norwegian heritage. Grace at holidays was always a traditional Norwegian-language grace. Nobody in the family spoke Norwegian, so it was just sounds that represented the prayer. I even learned it, and I'm an atheist. It seemed like the ideal thing to do.
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Exactly. Thanksgiving is NOT a political holiday and he is not entitled to foist his politics on the rest of the family.
ratchiweenie
Nov 2024
#138
Is he an evilgelical? Because got-DAMN!, those assholes never know when to come in for a landing.
Aristus
Nov 2024
#6
Oh yeah. Just heard one of them on TV. He's running for Gaetz's seat. This guy said he will
allegorical oracle
Nov 2024
#22
I knew from the very start that conservative Christianity was a bad fit for her.
Aristus
Nov 2024
#111
Can you tell him ahead of time "This is NOT the time or place for a political message!" dellivered with a steely look?
CTyankee
Nov 2024
#9
What an asshole, ruining your mother's Thanksgiving. Do what you want but I'd tell him to go fuck himself.
dem4decades
Nov 2024
#13
I, for one, would suggest mom disinvite brother. But, assuming she won't, gather some nice Bible verses that refute
Vinca
Nov 2024
#15
Just tell him your mom is saying grace and there will be NO discussion of politics, and if he doesn't
highplainsdem
Nov 2024
#17
tell him NO, and if he tosses his toys from the pram, then tell him to sod off and not come, his desires do not trump
Celerity
Nov 2024
#30
May all your problems resolve in peace. Meanwhile, when a family is ripped asunder by hate...
Hekate
Nov 2024
#66
Unless he's hosting and/or footing the bill for this dinner, he's a guest and should act like one
Deuxcents
Nov 2024
#38
One word: NO! If that doesn't work, say "I hope you have a nice Thanksgiving. Where ever you're going to be."
rsdsharp
Nov 2024
#44
Just say, "Don't make us uninvite you" or, "Only people that do the dishes are allowed rebuttal time."
FSogol
Nov 2024
#50
What does the family usually do with unruly children disrupting the meal?
Think. Again.
Nov 2024
#59
I'm with the 'it's a Mom tradition' crowd here. Plus, give an inch and he'll take a mile.
chowder66
Nov 2024
#60
It's a power trip. If he is the host --boycott. If he is trying to take over elsewhere, back up the host(ess)...
Hekate
Nov 2024
#68
I have no one in my family like that at all, so my solution would drastic and unrealistic.
DFW
Nov 2024
#76
Wait in the other room and don't be seated until he is done. Then, seat and say the regular prayer.
keithbvadu2
Nov 2024
#79
Asshole. Have everyone at the party tell your asshole brother that no one wants to hear
Scrivener7
Nov 2024
#81
NO!!! He's lucky to even be invited. I have trumper family who I am cutting off!!
OrlandoDem2
Nov 2024
#82
Open the stopwatch app on your phone, and bring extra mashed potatoes; lots of mashed potatoes
Attilatheblond
Nov 2024
#85
Steely look with Bible in hand and state "You want to rebuttal grace? No, we don't do devil worship here".
TheKentuckian
Nov 2024
#87
That was my first thought. Usually, the final "amen" is as good as a starter's pistol. nt
Buns_of_Fire
Nov 2024
#127
You are giving him way too much latitude. Just no. It's completely wacko. No political speeches
Scrivener7
Nov 2024
#103
Tell him he must first provide legal proof of his qualifications for making said prayer,
Jack Valentino
Nov 2024
#98
One possibility is to give Monty Python the chance for a rebuttal prayer.....
albacore
Nov 2024
#105
He voted for Felon45? No dinner for him. Tell him to go to Boston Market.
GoneOffShore
Nov 2024
#130