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34. I found it a desperate call for help. And I understand how she feels, even though in my case

Sun Dec 16, 2012, 10:03 AM

Dec 2012

the family member was never violent.

You are too quick to condmm. This woman has seen her child, whom she loves, threaten the safety of her other children, whom she also loves. If you don't think that that causes mixed feelings, then you shouldn't be in the business of mental health.

Eventually, when dealing with mentally ill children who are threats to the family, one becomes numb and unable to deal with emotions. One is left with a determination to do what is right for all of the family, including the mentally ill member, no matter the personal cost. It is a HUGE responsiblity and it is incredibly stressful.

I did not find this mother uncaring at all. She is begging for help. Come across with some viable advice for her rather than criticism.

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I am Adam Lanza's Mother-It's time to talk about Mental Illness [View all] Dalai_1 Dec 2012 OP

It's time to talk about guns...eom Kolesar Dec 2012 #1

And mental illness marshall Dec 2012 #17

Restrictions on gun purchases and serious penalties for improper handling Kolesar Dec 2012 #22

This man was restricted from purchasing a gun marshall Dec 2012 #30

this mother is a sick, sick piece of crap cali Dec 2012 #2

Are you being sarcastic? blue_heron Dec 2012 #4

No. I'm not. And I certainly have dealt with serious mental illness cali Dec 2012 #6

She must love her son, or she would have him institutionalized adigal Dec 2012 #13

first of all, in most places, it's not easy to institutionalize a kid. cali Dec 2012 #19

Some kids have mental problems and some parents are afraid of them. musical_soul Dec 2012 #15

I found it a desperate call for help. And I understand how she feels, even though in my case 1monster Dec 2012 #34

I'm not sure I even believe her. Why should I? cali Dec 2012 #39

Whatever. I'd say you were just another metal health worker with an agenda who 1monster Dec 2012 #42

thank you blue_heron Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #12

let me explain what is wrong with this piece, and by extension the woman who wrote cali Dec 2012 #16

I can completely understand about disagreeing with Maine-ah Dec 2012 #28

OK. I was so disgusted that I overreacted, but the piece does disgust me cali Dec 2012 #35

I think we'll agree to disagree Maine-ah Dec 2012 #40

I don't think so. Taking care of someone with mental health problems is extremely difficult: Dash87 Dec 2012 #7

I'm full aware of the challenges. I think it's very telling that this mother is exploiting- yes cali Dec 2012 #9

you've got to be kidding, Cali. Maine-ah Dec 2012 #18

Not at all. think about this piece. cali Dec 2012 #20

I'll stand up and agree with you. Avalux Dec 2012 #32

thanks for understanding what I was getting at. cali Dec 2012 #36

Your reply is important Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #23

I disagree with you. Inspired Dec 2012 #25

Hmm. Getting a 508. Looks like the server is getting spammed. geckosfeet Dec 2012 #3

I tried it again after reading Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #5

Still a no go. Will try later. Maybe you could post more of an excerpt? geckosfeet Dec 2012 #10

Here is another link Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #27

thks geckosfeet Dec 2012 #31

I'm getting the same thing... Maine-ah Dec 2012 #11

Thank you Maine-ah Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #14

sure! Maine-ah Dec 2012 #21

Thanks. Heart breaking piece. Probably lots of parents in similar positions. Our health care geckosfeet Dec 2012 #24

messed up mom or mental illness lunasun Dec 2012 #8

Apologies for the link not working I Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #26

OK well now there is more info to understand the title claim....thank you for fixing lunasun Dec 2012 #45

These two sentences say it all. And it is true. Any help there might be out there 1monster Dec 2012 #29

Thank you for your reply Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #38

You are so very brave kratos00 Dec 2012 #33

My heart goes out to you and this makes me very glad that my mentally ill brother has not turned jwirr Dec 2012 #37

As I see it, the mother has two choices for her son. Jail or her own death. LiberalEsto Dec 2012 #41

You are exactly correct Dalai_1 Dec 2012 #43

And some don't comply taking meds LiberalEsto Dec 2012 #44