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In reply to the discussion: Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped [View all]ddeclue
(16,733 posts)Making friends with women has never ever been a problem. They love to make me their friend and share emotionally with me. It has been much harder finding women who want to be more than just friends. For some guys it never is - they go into a place and women throw themselves at these guys in spite of the fact that they are obviously creeps.
I don't know where the part about "try to make a date" comes in.. of course I ask women I am interested in on dates. Not very successful at it though. I am generally lucky to go on a few dates a year although this year has been much better than most.
As for the second part: NO, never passed out drunk - what would be the point in that anyways, that's just disgusting and creepy - but I have had women who were very drunk who put moves on me that I did not feel comfortable about reciprocating because they were so drunk and I thought they would regret it and hate me later if I did reciprocate. These same women would never do the same thing with me when sober so I felt it was inappropriate and didn't do it - but then I've been told by a few of them that I should have taken the opportunity and that I "lacked confidence" by not doing so when that opportunity was offered.
As for women being psychologically "messed up" - I am afraid that the vast majority of available women I meet ARE psychologically messed up for any number of reasons from literal psychiatric conditions requiring prescription medication, to abuse to career stress to bad boyfriends or ex husbands to physical violence to personal tragedies to bizarre expectations and world views about men - there is always a lot of baggage. The women without (or with relatively little) psychological baggage always seem to already be married or in long term relationships - and honestly the most attractive feature to me of a woman is that she is non-game playing, low baggage/low maintenance, reliable and relatively predictable and this really is the hardest quality to find in a woman in my experience.