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róisín_dubh

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44. I'm an expert at it
Tue Jul 15, 2025, 11:56 PM
Jul 2025

Xennial here (‘77). I work in a pub part time. We get everyone from Gen Z’ers to Boomers in. The older folks know what they want and don’t hold me up when I’m busy. The inexperienced drinkers or the young lads often do not.

Some Gen Z folks seem to have the social skills of a damp sponge and will just stare at me when I ask what they want. In return, they get the same dead stare back and I go about serving someone else until they get their shit together to order. No banter, no “I’ll wait”. Nope, you want to play dumb, you either get that in return, get ignored or a snappy Jersey attitude, complete with eye roll. That usually shocks the Brits’ systems.

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Gen Z stare? [View all] senseandsensibility Jul 2025 OP
I've seen it. I've heard a GenZer say she uses it intentionally when she doesn't feel like engaging with people. Scrivener7 Jul 2025 #1
Our whole country is collapsing around US and this is what CNN is talking about? ImNotGod Jul 2025 #2
Well, I'm pretty sure they don't run the story 24/7 so I'm not sure I'd be that upset about it... hlthe2b Jul 2025 #8
That's exactly why I posted it, hlthe2b! senseandsensibility Jul 2025 #9
lol jesus christ WhiskeyGrinder Jul 2025 #3
The next stage is drooling. They spent so much time being entertained by a screen they shut off without it. FSogol Jul 2025 #4
My Gen Z stepson does this when he's tired of being lectured. yardwork Jul 2025 #5
You mean this isn't a totally new thing that has never happened before? Mariana Jul 2025 #12
Yeah, eye rolling came to my mind. Similar effect. electric_blue68 Jul 2025 #39
Thank you, sincerely FHRRK Jul 2025 #45
Gen Z dead stare with some side eye thrown in...my pupper does this too... wcmagumba Jul 2025 #6
Priceless to the 10th power Attilatheblond Jul 2025 #10
Cute! LoL Grown2Hate Jul 2025 #13
Was wondering what stare yall were talking about serbbral Jul 2025 #17
They need to do that with one eyebrow raised mercuryblues Jul 2025 #42
I've seen it. It comes off as extremely contemptuous. I've called a couple on it (subtly)--just asking hlthe2b Jul 2025 #7
This message was self-deleted by its author PeaceWave Jul 2025 #11
When I run into a situation like this as they stare at me, I just cross my eyes... or curl a lip or pick my nose... mitch96 Jul 2025 #14
Gross as hell! serbbral Jul 2025 #18
Yup, stops the stare in a heartbeat!!! Then I laugh!!! nt mitch96 Jul 2025 #23
I've encountered it . . . markpkessinger Jul 2025 #15
There is, I think, also a verbal (or non-verbal) equivalent . . . markpkessinger Jul 2025 #16
if the calls are recorded - and they usually are Skittles Jul 2025 #19
Yes, I always hear that my calls are being recorded for training senseandsensibility Jul 2025 #20
Are Gen Z Rebl2 Jul 2025 #21
Right? TxGuitar Jul 2025 #27
I remember doing this canetoad Jul 2025 #41
Wow, they really invented something completely and totally new! Think. Again. Jul 2025 #22
Oh I had that stare DOWN when I was a teenager senseandsensibility Jul 2025 #24
Plenty have done it in the workplace... Think. Again. Jul 2025 #25
😂 Rebl2 Jul 2025 #28
Squirt Bottle ZDU Jul 2025 #26
No then Rebl2 Jul 2025 #29
The cats never say anything ZDU Jul 2025 #31
Nah Rebl2 Jul 2025 #32
Exactly! ZDU Jul 2025 #33
They wait till you leave Conjuay Jul 2025 #48
OK, now what are you employing against the growing CEO-base worker pay gap? Scott Alan Swaggerty Jul 2025 #49
It doesn't sound as annoying as "My Bad" or "Dude" nt doc03 Jul 2025 #30
I kind of like "my bad" senseandsensibility Jul 2025 #34
Now they have "Hey Dude" shoes, I doc03 Jul 2025 #36
Hey Dude is a 17 year old Italian-founded fashion firm that was bought up by Crocs three years ago. Celerity Jul 2025 #40
I like MY BAD too Skittles Jul 2025 #37
You're definitely not Gen X Polybius Jul 2025 #43
Why are they tagging Gen Z with this? Aristus Jul 2025 #35
It's more than a stare. It's a lack of engagement. If they answer the phone, they pick up the phone and Scrivener7 Jul 2025 #46
The lack of greeting on the phone REALLY irritates me! Coventina Jul 2025 #51
Try doing that to a drill sergeant in basic training. bluesbassman Jul 2025 #38
I'm an expert at it róisín_dubh Jul 2025 #44
You do realize that grouping people by when they were Conjuay Jul 2025 #47
Right? Scott Alan Swaggerty Jul 2025 #50
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