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Jennicut

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28. After working in a group home with sexually abused children

Mon Jan 23, 2012, 02:59 AM

Jan 2012

I just can't have anything but dislike of the man. Sorry, but when lots of adults fall down on their responsibility you end up with children with deep psychological scars. It doesn't go away. Some of us react harshly because we have dealt with the scars upfront in our faces. When I worked as a counselor at a group home for boys, I had a 10 year old boy try to touch me inappropriately because his own mother did the same thing to him. His abuse could have been stopped as several people knew about it and did nothing. I had a child who wanted to commit suicide at 8 because he had been physically and sexually abused. I had boys try to abuse each other because it was what they "knew". When you experience that, you don't feel sorry for a wealthy older man that knew better.

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Self-righteousness is UGLY. [View all] Avalux Jan 2012 OP

are you being a bit self righteous judging people that have little sympathy seabeyond Jan 2012 #1

I'd have to agree Whisp Jan 2012 #4

Has there been a trial? Do you know the extend of Paterno's involvement? Avalux Jan 2012 #10

I agree. I don't give a damn about whether people feel sad about this. Post things off roguevalley Jan 2012 #11

Thankyou Vanje Jan 2012 #29

i would think, at the very least seabeyond Jan 2012 #33

I think it's important to recognize that he failed in his duty toward these children and TwilightGardener Jan 2012 #2

actually, he is. He could have ended it. Boys could have been spared. he didn't. roguevalley Jan 2012 #13

Even worse, Paterno knew that what his assistant saw rocktivity Jan 2012 #14

Uh, no, not in my book. Not doing enough to stop a bad deed is not the same TwilightGardener Jan 2012 #18

I don't think you know about guilt by association roguevalley Jan 2012 #24

Had he been charged with a crime? Had he witnessed the rapes firsthand and TwilightGardener Jan 2012 #25

again, teachers, coaches and others have a legal responsibility to ensure that reports like this are roguevalley Jan 2012 #26

We'll just have to hold different opinions. I think he is a very flawed man with a giant moral TwilightGardener Jan 2012 #27

having taught kids who were hurt like this who could have been saved if roguevalley Jan 2012 #34

. rocktivity Jan 2012 #3

yes. thinking of the children, i can look in the mirror. seabeyond Jan 2012 #6

The older I get, the more I feel that 'having all the facts' geckosfeet Jan 2012 #5

We make decisions based on the media's reporting which so often has turned out to be sabrina 1 Jan 2012 #22

Using the term Self Righteousness to trivialize rival opinions is ugly.nt athenasatanjesus Jan 2012 #7

Maybe "sanctimonious" is more exact (nt) Patiod Jan 2012 #19

I feel for the children, the victims, MadHound Jan 2012 #8

I know. It's just a fucking game. Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #31

I'm afraid you are not going to get what you want. MineralMan Jan 2012 #9

I was thinking how to write what you just wrote...thank you well done. rustydog Jan 2012 #15

Well, that's certainly an ironic post. (nt) Posteritatis Jan 2012 #12

He was the head of a personality cult. I have no sympathy for him. Odin2005 Jan 2012 #16

How did he impact your life? ZombieHorde Jan 2012 #17

Someone on the thread announcing Paterno's death replied "good" Patiod Jan 2012 #20

Yeah... this is a lost cause. cherokeeprogressive Jan 2012 #21

Trash thread is your friend. kiva Jan 2012 #23

After working in a group home with sexually abused children Jennicut Jan 2012 #28

Winning a whole bunch of football games doesn't excuse enabling child abusers. Warren DeMontague Jan 2012 #30

Agree 1000%. I cried too, half for the loss of a great man and half Laura PourMeADrink Jan 2012 #32