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Hekate

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61. Same here. My hairdresser was terrific & I went to her for about 35 years. Great auburn color...
Wed Jul 30, 2025, 02:14 AM
Jul 2025

The color suited me well for a long time, but when I was about 65 I kept asking her to “fade it out” and somehow she never did. I moved away at the age of 70 — then Covid happened — and I said wotthehell take advantage of letting it all grow out. The biggest problem I have is not having found someone in my new town yet who knows curly-wavy hair. You can’t just whack it off straight at the bottom and sides. I’m trying someone new on Friday, and feel optimistic.

As for any other modifications, I wouldn’t mind having my eyelids lifted for my 78th birthday, especially if my eye doc would tell my insurance company that drooping lids were obscuring my vision. That is a real thing for many older people, but I’m not sure if I qualify yet.

And for whatever reason (age, ancestry) I have almost no eyebrows or eyelashes to work with by now, and when I look in the mirror I see a white, white ghost (Irish ancestry) with dark eyes looking back at me. Would I like permanent eye makeup? Yes, yes I would. Do I know anyone who could be trusted? Well, probably not the Tattoo Parlor next door to Biker Bail Bonds (a real place in my town) . Maybe I’ll get over my hesitancy and find someone by the time I’m 90 or something. Ha.

Never in my life wanted anything surgical done whatsoever that didn’t have a medical reason. DH has always liked my body the way it is at whatever age — he’s a mensch. (My first husband, not so much — he would have been soooo happy to have me attach a pair of big bazooms to my chest. I departed at 32)

What a world.

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And permanent eyeliner and lip liner are a real mistake Ritabert Jul 2025 #37
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Let's apply positives, let's call women distinguished. . . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Jul 2025 #13
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I think mid stage looks so cool! oregonjen Jul 2025 #18
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Same here. My hairdresser was terrific & I went to her for about 35 years. Great auburn color... Hekate Jul 2025 #61
About the eye thing ..... Mossfern Jul 2025 #62
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