I like video games too but it's not exactly a recipe for self-esteem to answer "what did you do on the weekend?" on Monday morning at work with "I barely managed to feed, sleep or wash myself because I was glued to a computer monitor for 56 hours straight".
The attention economy is making us all a bit stupider and fatter and sadder but it has hit a number of the men I know the hardest. And the more disconnected they feel from other people, the more they retreat into a 24/7 fantasy world for the constant low level dopamine hit whether it's movies or TV shows or video games or porn or some combination. Why try to make friends or get a date when you can get 40% of the happiness for 0% of the effort by just plugging into your preferred method of electronic escapism?
And while I feel some sympathy, it's also really hard not to get exasperated by stories like this when they crop up (let's be honest) pretty regularly. If "nobody cares about mens' suffering" it's surprising how much it is discussed everywhere all the time and has been for the last 30 years.
And the solution is kind of painfully straightforward. Get away from your screens, go for a walk, get a hobby that requires interacting with other people, crack a book, plant something, do something in service to someone else. Stop listening to the dipshits trying to convince you you aren't "Alpha" enough so they can sell you something.
We all know what makes us feel better when we feel lonely and depressed. Go do those things instead of moaning about how mean society is to you because more women are getting college degrees now, statistically they live longer, and nobody wants to date you. Your attitudes and thoughts and choices are what are creating this reality for you, not feminism or woke people or DEI or immigrants.
You know what is making you sad? Capitalism finally getting around to treating you 1/10th as badly as it has been treating women for the past 250 years. But the secret is you can choose not to let it. So go do that instead of picking at the same scab over and over again because it's easier to blame others than to solve your own problems.
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