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In reply to the discussion: Young Men Face a Crisis [View all]

JanMichael

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15. One solution for a lonely individual young male is screamingly obvious.
Sat Aug 16, 2025, 10:06 AM
Aug 2025

Go to a university or community college.

Try to not be a dick, clean yourself up - ie. Start reading books, run and work out some, find the liberal and anarchist groups, go see live music, have good hygiene, and the odds of a date are now much better than 30 years ago. It was a 50/50 ratio in 1990 now it's 60/40 women to men.

Yes the rules have changed, and for the better I might add. "Me too" may have faded a bit but maybe the best thing to happen in decades.

Ask before you kiss, go with the flow, don't just drop your pants, and no means no. Don't be a creep and the world is a brighter happier place.

It actually worked that way in 1990 too.

Edit: I forgot to add that probably 50% of young males are in that stupid manosphere now so it's even easier and the ratio is even higher. In college they might only be 25%, but they are not competition.

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Young Men Face a Crisis [View all] applegrove Aug 2025 OP
1+ Norrrm Aug 2025 #1
For over a generation females attending two or four years schools exceeded men...the hidden stem economy was lost t JT45242 Aug 2025 #2
Yes. Trans kids have it the worst but the solution applegrove Aug 2025 #4
I concur with your comment re: sports being prioritized Raven123 Aug 2025 #8
I'm sure I'll take flak, but I will say basically all the young men I know spend 8+ hours a day playing video games. meadowlander Aug 2025 #9
Your post sums up a lot of my thoughts Johnny2X2X Aug 2025 #17
Mostly correct, but not #1 RandomNumbers Aug 2025 #18
I read the NYTimes article. Solly Mack Aug 2025 #3
yup Skittles Aug 2025 #11
It's a broken culture. usonian Aug 2025 #5
Blame it on the Stones MrWowWow Aug 2025 #6
I was completely loony-tunes as a young man. hunter Aug 2025 #7
In Japan NEETs: Not in Education, Employment or Training. Hikikomori is the extreme type. betsuni Aug 2025 #10
This issue is not limited by race or nationality Renew Deal Aug 2025 #12
They have plenty of opportunity to become respectable men, but actively choose not to. Incels figured out how to... Lancero Aug 2025 #13
They aren't rushing to the newly available farm and construction jobs? tanyev Aug 2025 #14
One solution for a lonely individual young male is screamingly obvious. JanMichael Aug 2025 #15
"Don't be a creep" has made the world a happier place throughout human history. hunter Aug 2025 #19
I wasn't suggesting university was for everyone. JanMichael Aug 2025 #20
A crisis, eh? MineralMan Aug 2025 #16
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