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KT2000

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44. We blame ourselves

Thu Sep 4, 2025, 04:49 PM

Sep 2025

because we are surrounded by people who blame us for our rapes, sexual assaults, and being preyed upon. If we do speak out we will spend eternity explaining that it was NOT our fault. But the elephant in the room is the expectation of being "good girls" and us having failed at that.
Entitled, protected predators have successfully turned the tables so the victims are to blame.
Enough.
Thank you for speaking up because I know that you just told us something that has haunted you for years. Respect!!

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I very Well Could have been an Epstein victim [View all] proud patriot Sep 2025 OP

My dear proud patriot! CaliforniaPeggy Sep 2025 #1

I want to thank everyone Especially my dear friend Peggy proud patriot Sep 2025 #81

I'm very sorry that happened to you. yardwork Sep 2025 #2

So sorry about what happened to you.nt jfz9580m Sep 2025 #3

You are a survivor and a hero yourself, my dear Bayard Sep 2025 #4

I went to post something similar, so I'll endorse your post. . . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2025 #16

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Thank you for your courage Proud Patriot JMCKUSICK Sep 2025 #6

From my understanding most abuse is kept a secret. That is part of the abuse. twodogsbarking Sep 2025 #7

That took courage some_of_us_are_sane Sep 2025 #8

Thank you for sharing this. colorado_ufo Sep 2025 #9

How brave you are telling Cha Sep 2025 #10

It also took strength to hide it for years leftstreet Sep 2025 #11

You are absolutely correct. niyad Sep 2025 #19

An important point. yellow dahlia Sep 2025 #36

I am proud of YOU, dear proud patriot! MLAA Sep 2025 #12

I'm sending huge hugs to you now and your poor 19 year old self! FirstLight Sep 2025 #13

I had something similar happen. Demobrat Sep 2025 #14

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FWIW, "I hope you fought back" isn't always helpful to hear, whether they did or not. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #26

I do understand that. Whatever one does, or does not do, to save themselves niyad Sep 2025 #60

yeah that's a much more supportive sentiment WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #62

I see you proud patriot Sep 2025 #35

Thank you. Demobrat Sep 2025 #64

hugggggggs. I am in awe of your courage, your fortitude, your perseverance. niyad Sep 2025 #15

I was approached at a gas station at the same age as you Coventina Sep 2025 #18

Thank you for being brave enough to share this. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #20

Oh boy...my heart goes out to you. sagetea Sep 2025 #21

Oh my God. I am so sorry that happened to you, but I am in awe that you Scrivener7 Sep 2025 #22

Now you are a HERO too. SalviaBlue Sep 2025 #23

Amen, brave one. Joinfortmill Sep 2025 #24

(((((HUGS))))) UpInArms Sep 2025 #25

I'm sorry.... JoeOtterbein Sep 2025 #27

You are very brave. bamagal62 Sep 2025 #28

At about 17 or 18 I bolted from what I thought was a 'job interview...' joanbarnes Sep 2025 #29

Back when many of us were young, we expected college professors & bosses to be gross womanofthehills Sep 2025 #40

I have been lucky in my mentors/teachers jfz9580m Sep 2025 #63

I'm sorry. mzmolly Sep 2025 #30

Indeed. soldierant Sep 2025 #66

Ouch. BComplex Sep 2025 #69

PTSD trigger chia Sep 2025 #72

Apologies. soldierant Sep 2025 #82

It's okay. It just hit hard, seeing in print the time I kept saying those things, over and over, to no effect. chia Sep 2025 #83

Isn't funny that we're ashamed to tell our stories? cate94 Sep 2025 #31

The feedback has been overwhelming proud patriot Sep 2025 #32

I'm pretty sure it wasn't easy, but I think/hope it will lighten the burden of your terrible experience over time. electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #48

Sorrow shared is halved IbogaProject Sep 2025 #65

Thank you. ananda Sep 2025 #33

I'm sorry that happened to you Bettie Sep 2025 #34

At least you stopped yourself from going back. kerry-is-my-prez Sep 2025 #37

wow i went to DVC in the 70's and can't image the college kimbutgar Sep 2025 #38

I think that's why I thought it was real proud patriot Sep 2025 #49

I'm so sorry. So many in the modeling and film industries are predators, as are their friends and associates. I once highplainsdem Sep 2025 #39

I admire your courage so much! summer_in_TX Sep 2025 #41

You are no where near alone. If we all stood up and screamed together 1WorldHope Sep 2025 #42

"We've been hunted MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #51

I'm really sorry you went through that. róisín_dubh Sep 2025 #43

We blame ourselves KT2000 Sep 2025 #44

I was attacked twice - once by a date and then from a "friend." kerry-is-my-prez Sep 2025 #45

So sorry that happened to you. Please forgive yourself 58Sunliner Sep 2025 #46

May you find peace in this revelation. OldBaldy1701E Sep 2025 #47

How hideous for you to be subjected to a predator! And now Brave for telling your story. Hugs to you, a all the women .. electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #50

Horrific. greatauntoftriplets Sep 2025 #52

Good on you! canetoad Sep 2025 #53

You are not alone MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #54

I'm so sorry. chia Sep 2025 #74

Thank you. MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #84

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My wife is an incest survivor 70sEraVet Sep 2025 #56

Thank you, thank you, thank you. JohnnyLib2 Sep 2025 #57

Hugs malaise Sep 2025 #58

Bless you for speaking the truth. Trueblue Texan Sep 2025 #59

What happened was in NO WAY your fault, and you need to stop beating yourself up over it FakeNoose Sep 2025 #61

#metoo William Gustafson Sep 2025 #67

Go and tell your 19 YO self IzzaNuDay Sep 2025 #68

Proud Patriot, I'm so sorry this happened to you. BComplex Sep 2025 #70

the Epstein survivors ABSOLUTELY ARE HEROS!!! bluboid Sep 2025 #71

You are amazing. Wishing you peace and healing now ❤️ chia Sep 2025 #73

I'm sorry that happened to you. Thank you for trusting us to hear your truth today. HeartsCanHope Sep 2025 #75

I had something kind of similar happen Jilly_in_VA Sep 2025 #76

May a bit of truth offer a bit of freedom to heal a bit. Festivito Sep 2025 #77

I could have been one too. Our fear and shame saved us. Our courage healed us. Clouds Passing Sep 2025 #78

Very proud of your courage!! no_hypocrisy Sep 2025 #79

HUGS MuseRider Sep 2025 #80

Respect. H2O Man Sep 2025 #85