Ryan Lanza Says,"You Have No Right To Call My Brother Names When He Isn’t Here"

[cascadiance]

140. I'm with you to some extent...

He certainly doesn't deserve to be put in the same category of monster that most of us think of his brother being in.

I think he needs to understand at some point that much as he's frustrated that the nation is calling him a monster for what his brother did, and perhaps blaming his mother for owning the guns that killed so many horribly, the nation feels frustrated if he says that we can't call his brother the monster we feel that we saw that can be the only way to describe an entity that would want to pump five bullets in to a totally innocent and young child (and many of them that way at that).

If I were him, I'd pull back from making public comments now and come to personal terms with what happened. Hopefully he has someone in his life that understands who he is personally inside that he can lean on for some support in trying to getting back his perspective on things.

Then later, if he can regain that sense of balance that might be difficult or impossible for him to do, really try to build up an account of his brother and mother's life in total and try to help us all personally understand what happened in his family that would lead to the animosity that had his mother and father split apart, and he himself cutting himself off from communicating to his brother for two years. If that could all help us understand how his brother might have been a decent person at one point that he wants us to believe he was at one point, and how that transition happened to have his brother turn in to the monster he became, then perhaps we can all thank Ryan for helping us understand more what creates this kind of horrible behavior in Adam's and many other killers' cases in society. That would be a contribution to help us all, and might help the rest of society embrace him at some point as more of an innocent victim, than perhaps a component of what lead his brother to become horribly nuts, which pretty much all of us don't understand at this point and are mostly speculating on might be the case, and perhaps harmfully too.

I don't think now is the time for him to do this, as it sounds like he's still got a lot of personal issues he needs to come to terms with before he can do this in the right way, but if he avoids becoming a prominent figure for the time being, it will perhaps leave room for him later to be a more positive part of the big picture of this horrible event and its after effects.