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Ms. Toad

(38,349 posts)
65. Noting about sexual preoccupation -
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 12:10 PM
Sep 2025

It is the invasion of space. Way more than once, I've had to sit in an uncomfortably small space (trains, buses, and planes are the worst) because some man insists in taking my space with his "manspread" legs.

(Or, not quite as bad, a man uses this tactic to prevent someone from sitting next to him - forcing me to stand or sit in a different (often less comfortable) seat.)

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OMG ALBliberal Sep 2025 #1
Slouching while Black will get you arrested. Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #2
Or "manspreading" ? dflprincess Sep 2025 #30
Oh I didn't think about that. Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #37
sprawling, deliberately invading and encroaching other's space (especially in spaces such as this) stopdiggin Sep 2025 #45
The article suggested she wasn't sitting next to him IbogaProject Sep 2025 #51
I agree. We (I) got off on a little tangent stopdiggin Sep 2025 #56
He seems to have been on the seat in front of her. LisaM Sep 2025 #58
From what I have read Still Waters Sep 2025 #91
Maybe he was blocking the aisle? LisaM Sep 2025 #95
Sorry I wasn't able to open the article but MadameButterfly Sep 2025 #118
I have not seen it. But I don't use public transportation. Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #67
Noting about sexual preoccupation - Ms. Toad Sep 2025 #65
Yes I was just tutored regarding this male aggressive practice. Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #68
The worst was on a plane, Ms. Toad Sep 2025 #76
I have heard about this as a ploy. The man pretends to fall asleep Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #79
He was actually asleep or passed out. Ms. Toad Sep 2025 #84
Sounds like more than just booze. Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #85
I wouldn't be surprised. Ms. Toad Sep 2025 #89
The FAs have seen it all I guess and it is common place and boring to them. Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #90
I don't remember exactly why I didn't make a big loud fuss - Ms. Toad Sep 2025 #99
Oh yes I see. Irish_Dem Sep 2025 #101
My first reaction, as well, based on his comment that she said something about not liking how he was sitting. Ms. Toad Sep 2025 #63
Who said that? MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #81
Sometimes our lengthy lingams must be understood better. GreenWave Sep 2025 #116
Jim Crow................... Lovie777 Sep 2025 #3
I hope there is a lawsuit filed by O'Keefe against these thugs, which would include the MTA, and the bigoted lostincalifornia Sep 2025 #4
As soon as I saw the "MTA" identifier I was aw, crap another racist indident in my area. electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #114
What does MTA stand for? Where did the train ride start? raging moderate Sep 2025 #5
appears to be the Metro-North Railroad bigtree Sep 2025 #7
Thank you. raging moderate Sep 2025 #11
Metropolitan Transit Authority BronxBoy Sep 2025 #18
Metropolitan Transportation Authority Celerity Sep 2025 #25
I live for the day when it's the bigot who gets tossed off Warpy Sep 2025 #112
Stupid cops. Plus arrogant cops: you did not obey our authoriteh, so we arrested you. . . . .nt Bernardo de La Paz Sep 2025 #6
Hope he files a lawsuit ASAP. dalton99a Sep 2025 #8
I hope he sues everyone involved Johonny Sep 2025 #9
How he was "sitting"? harumph Sep 2025 #10
He was facing her?? In short fuzzy video, seats are high so she couldn't see his lap. txwhitedove Sep 2025 #14
The elderly woman, the conductor, others should have Ilsa Sep 2025 #12
SMDH. n/t iluvtennis Sep 2025 #13
Sometimes people find it hard to understand why white women align themselves with white supremacy and/or patriarchy. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #15
It also explains why a few minorities also align with those they perceive to have power. yardwork Sep 2025 #16
BINGO! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Sep 2025 #17
"Stop resisting!" IronLionZion Sep 2025 #19
This got me. Wow. underpants Sep 2025 #36
I am so ashamed of white people doing racist shit. Sue the pants off them. It's the only way to get through to them. jmbar2 Sep 2025 #20
She saw a black person and just didn't want him there in her sight/presence. Lars39 Sep 2025 #21
OMG Beringia Sep 2025 #22
Post removed Post removed Sep 2025 #23
Let's not use gendered slurs obamanut2012 Sep 2025 #27
Thank you. niyad Sep 2025 #54
Appalling and disgusting wolfie001 Sep 2025 #24
I agree wih everything but the term you used, hag. In current use, niyad Sep 2025 #31
Maybe DU can post a syllabus of offensive terms wolfie001 Sep 2025 #41
A syllabus of offensive terms, what a great idea! Abolishinist Sep 2025 #107
lol! wolfie001 Sep 2025 #108
Haven't watched any of the episodes, but it sounds good and won a number of awards. Abolishinist Sep 2025 #120
Oh thanks! Some stuff to check out here! wolfie001 Sep 2025 #121
Sue them. Sue every fucking one of them Joinfortmill Sep 2025 #26
That is so damn disturbing. chowder66 Sep 2025 #28
Video on youtube BlueWaveNeverEnd Sep 2025 #29
That woman probably has dementia. Hope22 Sep 2025 #39
Why would you make that assumption? WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #75
The look in her eyes... Hope22 Sep 2025 #83
That's quite a lot to draw out of a split second of footage. And either one doesn't explain away racism, or the fact WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #86
That's a lot of defending a white woman who got a black man thrown off a train...for no reason. Hope22 Sep 2025 #98
You think I'm defending her? I'm saying she did what she did because she's a racist old white woman. WhiskeyGrinder Sep 2025 #100
Okay, now I'm gonna sound like a Karen (and I hate that term!!!), but hear me out, please hamsterjill Sep 2025 #32
We also hate the term "Karen"... Number9Dream Sep 2025 #94
Agreed, but note that I was referring to the OP. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #97
The NYC subway system is under attack by Trump. yardwork Sep 2025 #117
This isn't something from history? This just happened??? niyad Sep 2025 #33
Sue the living shit out of everyone AverageOldGuy Sep 2025 #34
They didn't even communicate with the woman so they probably don't have her name. live love laugh Sep 2025 #66
He should sue the MTA for racial harassment...riding a train while black. patphil Sep 2025 #35
Too bad no Karen photos.. Hope22 Sep 2025 #38
It is on the cops as well exboyfil Sep 2025 #43
Agree.... Hope22 Sep 2025 #48
Yes the rep would have to trespass him exboyfil Sep 2025 #50
I have witnessed a train employee tell officers to all but piss off. Hope22 Sep 2025 #88
I'd love to know specifically WHAT Police Dept. was involved Totally Tunsie Sep 2025 #40
The other white woman (police officer) vanlassie Sep 2025 #53
With apologies, vanlassie, I'm not understanding your reply Totally Tunsie Sep 2025 #64
I can't recall but I imagine I made a mistake. Sorry. vanlassie Sep 2025 #78
Relax and enjoy your evening. Totally Tunsie Sep 2025 #109
You too. vanlassie Sep 2025 #113
Should be sent it to Audit the Audit, Lackluster, and The Civil Rights Attorney exboyfil Sep 2025 #42
RAS? niyad Sep 2025 #55
Reasonable Articulable Suspicion exboyfil Sep 2025 #61
Thank you. That is not exactly a common acronym. niyad Sep 2025 #103
As I've ranted on Threads JustAnotherGen Sep 2025 #44
Posture? Lulu KC Sep 2025 #46
I would like to see a pic of how he's sitting Bayard Sep 2025 #104
The description is now out there Lulu KC Sep 2025 #122
Did she ask him to move, or was she too afraid of his blackness? Bayard Sep 2025 #123
Here's the story I read Lulu KC Sep 2025 #124
OMG. We have to turn this around, and fast. pandr32 Sep 2025 #47
Sue the pants off of them!!! Coventina Sep 2025 #49
Either EVERYONE goes out into the streets.. 1WorldHope Sep 2025 #52
Seems racist to me. Americanme Sep 2025 #57
What do the police reports say? Sneederbunk Sep 2025 #59
That woman should be arrested Quanto Magnus Sep 2025 #60
Sorry Karen, I'm not your Pullman porter anymore. cbabe Sep 2025 #62
Party like it's 1955 again. Oh wait, it's 2025 and the rotted corpse of Jim Crow has risen from its grave... Hekate Sep 2025 #69
1953 again. Celerity Sep 2025 #71
55 to 25 rhymes visually Hekate Sep 2025 #87
They should need more probable cause to detain someone AdamGG Sep 2025 #70
He's a writer on a popular show Figarosmom Sep 2025 #72
My youngest son was a grad student at Yale mnhtnbb Sep 2025 #73
If the racists of America don't stop what they're doing Buddyzbuddy Sep 2025 #74
That's insane. Arrested for poor posture?????????????????? Vinca Sep 2025 #77
I'm so sorry, Alex O'Keefe. ... littlemissmartypants Sep 2025 #80
So disgusting. highplainsdem Sep 2025 #82
Someone should tell John Roberts!!! Grins Sep 2025 #92
"Henry Louis Gates Jr." Act I, Scene 2. NM Grins Sep 2025 #93
I hope he informed the cops and old Karen Hassler Sep 2025 #96
That whole thing escalated into 'stupidland' needlessly 70sEraVet Sep 2025 #102
Maybe O'Keefe should find out who the white lady is and sue her for a couple million. n/t PatrickforB Sep 2025 #105
WTF?!! (have errands to run, be back later) electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #106
As noted upthread - Prof. Henry Louis Gates, Jr. 16 years ago BumRushDaShow Sep 2025 #110
His Posture?! His Sitting?!! As before...WTF?!! electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #111
Re-reading and seeing the vid... electric_blue68 Sep 2025 #115
NBC/AP article: sl8 Sep 2025 #119
Looks like he broke the rules and behaved like a jerk gulliver Sep 2025 #126
Chilling. ck4829 Sep 2025 #125
Someone has likely said this already but MuseRider Sep 2025 #127
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