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In reply to the discussion: Are you autistic? I am. [View all]

slightlv

(8,096 posts)
23. Very insightful, hunter...
Mon Sep 22, 2025, 11:34 PM
Sep 2025

thank you for relating your personal experience. I took a position working with an autistic child while I was an undergraduate. It was enlightening, terrifying at times for me (and I can imagine what it was like for her!)... but very telling for me. I graduated with my psych degree, but ended up going into technology when it was just a nascent career field, instead of psychology. The time I spent with my autistic charge, and my time spent at a State Hospital changed my mind on the career field. I learned I couldn't "leave it at the job"... and instead, took it to heart and back home with me. Eventually, sooner rather than later, it would have burned me out completely, and I recognized that fact early on, thank goodness.

My grandson, I suspect, is on the Spectrum. Very high functioning, still, I recognize behaviors and attitudes from my psych days. And I bless every day I'm with him.

What you said about your mother becoming a cold hard bitch to the doc... well, I don't blame her. It's the same thing we saw when they tried to figure out what caused childhood schizophrenia. I curse Bruno Bettelheim for his decades of damage and harm to mothers (and their children!).

I've honestly thought... with no validation to back me up, of course... that a lot of what we're seeing in fields of neurodiversity and other "situations" is environmental, mixed with genetic predisposition. For example, I've always believed my lupus and fibro were genetic predispositions that got kicked off by some aspect of our modern world... chemicals, genetic manipulation in foods, air/water qualities... etc. The fact that I, in addition to at least 7 other women in this one office I worked at all ended up coming down with autoimmune diseases only bolstered my belief there was *something* environmental that kicked it off. And going back through family histories on my Mom's side, I can see at least four generations that had the same symptoms.

The right wants what the right always wants: Black and White answers to questions that are inherently Gray. They just don't do nuance or subtlety... or rigorous research. They find a paper that says what they believe, and wallah! they've proven themselves to be experts. I just haven't figured out how they haven't all died out by now!

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15 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

Are you autistic? I am. [View all] hunter Sep 2025 OP
This was an excellent read and insightful. Thank you. chowder66 Sep 2025 #1
KNR and bookmarking. niyad Sep 2025 #66
Probably. canetoad Sep 2025 #2
Recommended. H2O Man Sep 2025 #3
DURec leftstreet Sep 2025 #4
Yes Timewas Sep 2025 #5
This is such a hateful, ignorant, regressive period in history... hlthe2b Sep 2025 #6
Thank you for sharing your story mr715 Sep 2025 #7
Thank you for writing this. milestogo Sep 2025 #8
Great post Wild blueberry Sep 2025 #9
Thank you mountain grammy Sep 2025 #10
I am, too, and I feel for you EnergizedLib Sep 2025 #11
Yes Oneironaut Sep 2025 #12
Hunter, thank you for sharing your experience Ilikepurple Sep 2025 #13
Thank you for this. yardwork Sep 2025 #14
K&R mvd Sep 2025 #15
This message was self-deleted by its author Prairie_Seagull Sep 2025 #50
I have Asperger's - my inability to read ppl led me to Psy. alittlelark Sep 2025 #16
I'm an Asp. ChazInAz Sep 2025 #55
How did you overcome writing "like an ESL student with a head injury?" Sogo Sep 2025 #17
I started college as an engineering major and switched to Biology... hunter Sep 2025 #22
I suspect I may be on the spectrum. area51 Sep 2025 #18
Thank you for every bit of that and sharing it here. Maru Kitteh Sep 2025 #19
The kids told me that I am on the spectrum. Grolph_ Sep 2025 #20
For what it's worth, I think your writing is excellent. 3Hotdogs Sep 2025 #21
Very insightful, hunter... slightlv Sep 2025 #23
Covid DID its best, for now. vanlassie Sep 2025 #24
Sharing your story and experience has done us all a real service. Thanks ❤️ MLAA Sep 2025 #25
Apparently me too. KentuckyWoman Sep 2025 #26
Sincerely thank you for this Sympthsical Sep 2025 #27
Excellent. Thanks. I'm definitely on several spectrums. Fortunate to have found my way. Need more for Silent Type Sep 2025 #28
I am not, but I love someone who is. FM123 Sep 2025 #29
Thank you posting proud patriot Sep 2025 #30
You write very well for someone who is 'autistic'. Jack Valentino Sep 2025 #31
RFK jr is a total dick and a nasty moron. Would be nice to go back a couple of years when I didn't know he existed. Dave Bowman Sep 2025 #32
In the end, we're all, each, a bag of tricks... BurnDoubt Sep 2025 #33
Yes. meadowlander Sep 2025 #34
Thank you for this, meadowlander Hekate Sep 2025 #37
I am impressed by your strength Easterncedar Sep 2025 #40
This description is so helpful Alice Kramden Sep 2025 #41
Thank you for posting this LetMyPeopleVote Sep 2025 #53
Thank you for sharing meadowlander Ilikepurple Sep 2025 #71
Excellent post. markodochartaigh Sep 2025 #35
Thank you for teaching us, hunter. I remember the books that blamed "refrigerator mothers" Hekate Sep 2025 #36
I gather most of us are, to some extent Oeditpus Rex Sep 2025 #38
My experience is similar to yours Mossfern Sep 2025 #49
My mom had it both ways Oeditpus Rex Sep 2025 #72
Thank you dearly, hunter, for sharing your experiences and perspective. It is laudable and helpful KitFox Sep 2025 #39
This is a wise and helpful thread Alice Kramden Sep 2025 #42
Raises hand. nt. druidity33 Sep 2025 #43
Autism Mr.Bee Sep 2025 #44
K&R spanone Sep 2025 #45
Yep!...along with most of my family... MiHale Sep 2025 #46
Thank you for sharing your story, hunter Clouds Passing Sep 2025 #47
Probably Lithos Sep 2025 #48
I put my parents through hell and I was completely oblivious to that. hunter Sep 2025 #59
Thank you for your story LetMyPeopleVote Sep 2025 #51
Pretty sure I am. no_hypocrisy Sep 2025 #52
High functioning autism is in our family, so I'm very familiar with it. I have a cousin whose parents didn't understand Martin68 Sep 2025 #54
Thank you for sharing your life here. You are a fantastic writer. 1WorldHope Sep 2025 #56
Thank you for posting--glad autism is being discussed now by people with lived experience. Timeflyer Sep 2025 #57
This sounds just like my son, but currently he only has a diagnosis of ADHD LT Barclay Sep 2025 #58
One of my kids is "on the spectrum" and now a successful adult. hunter Sep 2025 #60
Thanks anyway. LT Barclay Sep 2025 #70
Post removed Post removed Sep 2025 #61
probably AllaN01Bear Sep 2025 #62
My daughter is. Pacifist Patriot Sep 2025 #63
There are strong upsides to having autistic friends PurgedVoter Sep 2025 #64
terribly functional so not considered. pansypoo53219 Sep 2025 #65
found out I was Aspie when I was about 67 or so..Now 77. LiberalArkie Sep 2025 #67
Thank you for your honesty -- your voice matters youssef5070 Sep 2025 #68
I think we are all born and live in our own world for as long as possible. Aussie105 Sep 2025 #69
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