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15. I'm so sorry.

Wed Oct 1, 2025, 01:03 PM

Oct 1

I can check a lot of those same boxes.

It's very lonely, embarrassing, impossible to explain to people who don't experience it.

One thing that was frustrating was that mom could fool medical professionals and home health aides into thinking she was fine. She'd make up stories about how she got up every day, cooked breakfast, played bridge with the girls, etc. I'd have to chase the social worker down the hall and say it was all made up, mom never got up, she wasn't eating, bathing, or taking her meds. Then they'd give me side eye like I was the problem. They'd assess her as independent and then I'd get the calls a few weeks later, upset because she was incontinent, hiding her meds, locking home health out and yelling at them to go away, etc. That went on for years until I talked her into moving into assisted living.

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Vascular dementia and Trump [View all] yardwork Oct 1 OP

Ain't no medbed in the Universe that can repair that. PuraVidaDreamin Oct 1 #1

I'd like to see his daily Rx list leftstreet Oct 1 #2

Right. We can see many of his risk factors with our own eyes. yardwork Oct 1 #4

His Rx list doesn't matter that much popsdenver Oct 1 #26

This message was self-deleted by its author CountAllVotes Oct 1 #3

I'm very sorry for your loss and the years of stress. yardwork Oct 1 #5

This message was self-deleted by its author CountAllVotes Oct 1 #11

I'm so sorry. yardwork Oct 1 #15

I had many of those experiences when I was in home health... Trueblue Texan Oct 1 #24

Oh thank you! yardwork Oct 1 #31

For my dad, he slowly lost all social filtering with his dementia JCMach1 Oct 1 #6

I'm very sorry. yardwork Oct 1 #9

I'm not a real doctor and I've never even played one on TV or in the movies. But do you mind if we get a second opinion? marble falls Oct 1 #7

Sure. I'm just sharing my opinion. yardwork Oct 1 #10

"That boy just ain't right." Torchlight Oct 1 #8

Says it all. yardwork Oct 1 #12

Medbeds equals stem cells EarthAbides Oct 1 #13

Oh wow, you may be onto something there. Fundies won't touch stem cells Maru Kitteh Oct 1 #45

I hope Dump's clock is at 11:59:59 -- right at the STROKE of MIDNIGHT Blue Owl Oct 1 #14

Right into a sandtrap BaronChocula Oct 1 #17

The thing about tRump is he has always been Grammy23 Oct 1 #16

'The nedia is choosing to ignore' something Oeditpus Rex Oct 1 #18

He has a WH physician who gave a public report of his CVI in his legs, so maybe another is forthcoming because of ancianita Oct 1 #21

Hey, look at all the reports on The Felon's dementia Oeditpus Rex Oct 1 #39

Great. Maybe it's gaining traction! ancianita Oct 1 #42

Or maybe 'the media' haven't been 'ignoring' Oeditpus Rex Oct 1 #44

Can you please stop insisting on Journalistic ethics! maxsolomon Oct 1 #27

Sarcasm? (n.t.) Oeditpus Rex Oct 1 #40

The media is ignoring and sanewashing Trump's crazy talk. yardwork Oct 1 #32

See #39 (n.t.) Oeditpus Rex Oct 1 #41

I agree with you, having seen my own mother's decline. pnwest Oct 1 #19

Thanks. Yes, the obesity and junk food eating have also led to his chronic venous insufficiency (CVI), ancianita Oct 1 #20

You may well be correct. Whatever it is, he recently has entered - or devolved into - a new stage ms liberty Oct 1 #22

"Vance will be worse." Kid Berwyn Oct 1 #23

Lawrence O'Donnell mentioned it last night BigmanPigman Oct 1 #25

Mentioned it? Re-watch. It was THE central point of his entire opener! ancianita Oct 1 #43

My mother has vascular dementia right now. There really is no cure or treatment. Botany Oct 1 #28

I hope the best for your mom and your family. yardwork Oct 1 #33

Reading between the lines, one very troubling thing Bluetus Oct 1 #29

A close friend of mine had at least two multi focal strokes in early May. hedda_foil Oct 1 #30

Oh my. I'm so sorry you're going through that. yardwork Oct 1 #35

Thanks so much for your encouragement, yardwork! hedda_foil Oct 1 #38

Bless all of you who take care of people like that. My husband has had radiation and chemo along with a lot of other Srkdqltr Oct 1 #34

I hope I didn't scare you or anyone. yardwork Oct 1 #36

Thank you for sharing. It helps. Docs say its normal but not how to cope as everyone is so different. Srkdqltr Oct 1 #37