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DFW

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7. Of my siblings and children.....
Sun Oct 5, 2025, 04:47 AM
Oct 2025

That is five couples. Only one out of the five involves a marriage with two partners from the same country. Well, one and a half if you count my daughters as half German and half American. Still, definitely a minority. Two out of three live in the USA, so yes, of course, we keep a close eye on things. My New York based daughter has kept her German nationality current, and though her husband is now a US citizen, their children are dual citizens of the USA and Germany.. They can come live here any time they want. With my brother, it's more complicated, as his wife had to give up her Japanese citizenship for him top keep his job (security clearance issues), so, while she could probably go back to Japan, he would have a hard time following her, and their sons never kept their Japanese nationality current, though their parents got it for them at birth.

On the other hand, so far none of the family, all active Democrats, has been harassed for being so, but that doesn't mean they never will. Except for one of my nephews, currently stationed in the Ukraine, and one daughter, who lives with her family in the Taunus Hills near Frankfurt--and myself, of course--, my siblings and their families are all US-based. EVERYONE keeps active, and everyone keeps their passports current. We have friends in both high and low places, and we forget nothing, so we never relax. In the current situation, relaxing is a luxury we cannot afford. None of us can. It's odd--more of my family is under threat from violence right now than isn't. The ones in the NYC-D.C. areas and my nephew in Kyiv are all in danger of being subjected to government-sponsored violence (USA and Russian). My daughter and I in Germany are in the least danger.

My German-based daughter and I travel a lot, so we are exposed more than the rest, even if it's civilian violence. Just last week in Brussels, in a train station, someone was able to de-activate an escalator I was on while I has half way up. He then raced up to where I was, grabbed my small suitcase, and urged, "let me help you, let me help you!" I held on to it, and yelled, "let go, let go!" This was all in French, of course. It attracted enough attention--there are cops in all major European train stations--that he took off when he realized he wasn't getting my luggage without more of a fight then he was willing to be a part of. In most of western Europe, unarmed theft is not considered a crime by the justice system, so either hold on to your stuff, or kiss it good-bye. In Germany, if someone tries to rob you with a gun, and he's caught, it's an almost automatic five years. If there is no weapon involved, and they catch the thief, he is usually released in five minutes, and told, "bad boy, don't do it again (he will)."

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I have Asperger's so I have only three real friends. markodochartaigh Oct 2025 #1
"...and here we are" BigmanPigman Oct 2025 #3
HEAR HEAR Skittles Oct 2025 #5
All of my friends and family are as keenly aware of the peril as I am. Mister Ed Oct 2025 #2
Exactly! Cherrycheeks Oct 2025 #4
I would say some around me have concern but not nearly enough imo. blue_jay Oct 2025 #6
Of my siblings and children..... DFW Oct 2025 #7
"Not being able to relax" BigmanPigman Oct 2025 #16
You would think it might get easier. DFW Oct 2025 #20
You're so right about our "sense of security"..... BigmanPigman Oct 2025 #21
At first, No. Now - Everyone's moving abroad coldtea Oct 2025 #8
Welcome to DU. . . .nt Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2025 #11
Welcome to DU RussBLib Oct 2025 #13
Welcome to du. We are staying right here for Emile Oct 2025 #14
My family was working on getting us Italian citizenship BigmanPigman Oct 2025 #17
Welcome to DU LetMyPeopleVote Oct 2025 #19
I feel like a grim canary in a detached coal mine. chia Oct 2025 #9
I think I've noticed a slight change BigmanPigman Oct 2025 #18
Be extra aware this time, please. Especially by yourself. Do you take your phone? chia Oct 2025 #22
I'm never worried at all for some reason. BigmanPigman Oct 2025 #23
Good for you! chia Oct 2025 #24
Some do, some don't edhopper Oct 2025 #10
The older people, like myself, tavernier Oct 2025 #12
Relax. Say nothing. Everything is normal. And the normal will continue dalton99a Oct 2025 #15
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