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54. Let's not be hasty or overly harsh on the complainant
Thu Oct 16, 2025, 09:57 PM
Oct 2025

Unless I'm missing something, the complainant may not have had the full context, and in any event was concerned that the comments may have been inappropriate anyway.

To be clear, I agree giving the full context that there seems to be no problem, but that doesn't mean the complainant was wrong to question it. In the long run, employers want such matters brought up and resolved quickly, and liberal-minded people should want such matters resolved to ensure the work environment is not hostile to minorities and women.

If she didn't hear the full context, it's entirely reasonable for her to have a legitimate concern that the comments were creating a hostile work environment.


Having said that, I also won't dismiss the possibility you raise, that she has it in for the o.p., maybe even understood that there was nothing offensive yet took the opportunity to harass the o.p. I used to work on Wall Street so I know crap like that happens!

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Some people are just too senitive... especially in a rock solid case like this. WarGamer Oct 2025 #1
I don't know about firing her, but I'd definitely slightlv Oct 2025 #47
I think that is going to far sdfernando Oct 2025 #49
... Prairie Gates Oct 2025 #2
I agree that this won't go much further tcfrogs Oct 2025 #7
Oh, it's all been very embarrassing, to be sure Prairie Gates Oct 2025 #13
People are ignorant and mean Keepthesoulalive Oct 2025 #14
I think BeerBarrelPolka Oct 2025 #16
HR sounds like they're doing everything right. sir pball Oct 2025 #62
I don't understand canetoad Oct 2025 #18
Sara and the VP need to take a field trip to Walmart and see if they can get a discount on the purchase of 3Hotdogs Oct 2025 #33
Sara and the VP are doing things correctly... Pacifist Patriot Oct 2025 #43
I disagree. When something that assholic is the subject of a complaint, the official 3Hotdogs Oct 2025 #59
All complaints in a company need an official investigation and response. sir pball Oct 2025 #63
We re in agreement with this. 3Hotdogs Oct 2025 #71
Our country is too litigious to allow that. cab67 Oct 2025 #88
Your co-worker sounds like Disaffected Oct 2025 #3
A back stabber. nt Hotler Oct 2025 #52
The complainant is an ignorant malaise Oct 2025 #4
I tried, at least to my boss and HR n/t tcfrogs Oct 2025 #9
Your HR BeerBarrelPolka Oct 2025 #17
That's not how it works. Pacifist Patriot Oct 2025 #44
It sounds like she did "shut this down immediately"... sir pball Oct 2025 #64
She BeerBarrelPolka Oct 2025 #69
The Negro League Was Founded By Rube Foster ProfessorGAC Oct 2025 #41
My father was in a minor league farm club of the Yankees, circa 1940. Abolishinist Oct 2025 #55
Satchel! ProfessorGAC Oct 2025 #73
I consider this harassment and ridiculous. Irish_Dem Oct 2025 #5
A LOT of young people think "negro" is a slur. intheflow Oct 2025 #20
You have answered my question in part. Irish_Dem Oct 2025 #29
"They'll laugh out loud at the ridiculousness of it!" 3catwoman3 Oct 2025 #37
Some white people can use the word "negro" innocently, while others can say it with a tone of voice FakeNoose Oct 2025 #46
Actually I think the N-word is a racist variation of the word 'negro'... Jack Valentino Oct 2025 #61
They are Black people. intheflow Oct 2025 #70
Etymology of the Spanish word "negro": sop Oct 2025 #78
But 'African' is a race, not a nationality. Jack Valentino Oct 2025 #89
Turn the tables. carpetbagger Oct 2025 #6
Better yet, make a donation... GJGCA Oct 2025 #19
Good one. Joinfortmill Oct 2025 #30
This is a good idea Renew Deal Oct 2025 #31
Good idea! calimary Oct 2025 #85
Sometimes it is hard to keep up. MichMan Oct 2025 #8
That's what I mentioned in the original post tcfrogs Oct 2025 #10
In the US, markodochartaigh Oct 2025 #28
Sounds absurd Delarage Oct 2025 #11
lol Renew Deal Oct 2025 #32
'The N-word' (that identifier, not the word itself) Oeditpus Rex Oct 2025 #35
I Loved That Show DET Oct 2025 #67
Someone should advise her barbtries Oct 2025 #12
dont you have the right to face your accuser ? AllaN01Bear Oct 2025 #15
It's tricky in the workplace. Pacifist Patriot Oct 2025 #45
thanks for your insight. good luck AllaN01Bear Oct 2025 #48
As someone with management experience...no. sir pball Oct 2025 #65
I bet she'll reveal her identity to you directly or indirectly ... Auggie Oct 2025 #21
The complainant "swatted" the OP Bobstandard Oct 2025 #22
Let's not be hasty or overly harsh on the complainant unblock Oct 2025 #54
The fact that the complainant threatened further action, after the context was explained, suggests Bev54 Oct 2025 #79
I'm not dismissing the possibility of bad intent on her part, but unblock Oct 2025 #80
It sure seems to me that the racist here soldierant Oct 2025 #23
Probably wouldn't be hard to track down who she is, if you wanted to. JoseBalow Oct 2025 #24
They need to be held accountable for this Grim Chieftain Oct 2025 #25
This is why Liberals get a bad rap. We have to be politically correct, ... aggiesal Oct 2025 #26
This message was self-deleted by its author markodochartaigh Oct 2025 #34
I don't think they are liberal Keepthesoulalive Oct 2025 #38
So sorry this happened to you. Joinfortmill Oct 2025 #27
Since it's still DownriverDem Oct 2025 #36
The US Census used the term as a race selection until recently. sinkingfeeling Oct 2025 #39
I would be unsurpised if it were a white person who'd been reprimanded in the past AZJonnie Oct 2025 #40
You'll be fine! Pacifist Patriot Oct 2025 #42
HR is practicing CYA but isn't worried. You should not be either. ms liberty Oct 2025 #50
If by CYA... Pacifist Patriot Oct 2025 #53
CYA means HR is covering their company's butt legally by "holding on to" the paperwork ms liberty Oct 2025 #58
What a wild story. Trumps Nazi Army has made all of us super paranoid. BradBo Oct 2025 #51
Some people have nothing better to do than create an issue where none exists. LoisB Oct 2025 #56
This awful situation reminds me of an episode of "Blackish" nearly a decade ago. . . kevinbgoode1 Oct 2025 #57
The complainant isn't going to get very far "consulting with" people. sir pball Oct 2025 #60
Sorry this person got offended, and made a complaint about to HR about you, who electric_blue68 Oct 2025 #66
What an utterly asinine complaint misanthrope Oct 2025 #68
OOF. We need to really work on this. Happy Hoosier Oct 2025 #72
Calling the ACLU??? Boo1 Oct 2025 #74
Tell HR that your entire team should take a trip to the museum. Reader Rabbit Oct 2025 #75
i was at dept of navy specing sonar transducers from a company called "massa teledyne" rampartd Oct 2025 #76
Good luck. MuseRider Oct 2025 #77
There is zero context needed for the word negro. Totally absurd. live love laugh Oct 2025 #81
Thanks so much for letting us know rurallib Oct 2025 #82
At a former workplace of mine, SpankMe Oct 2025 #83
That was an over reaction and gives political correctness a bad name. 1WorldHope Oct 2025 #84
Yeah I read a few years ago about someone who used the word 'niggling' in conversation PatrickforB Oct 2025 #86
Just read the initial post BaronChocula Oct 2025 #87
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