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SummerSnow

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49. This reminds me of a church I use to go to..

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Wed Dec 26, 2012, 02:16 PM

Dec 2012

This woman in the church liked this guy.She assumed he like me cause he was attentive to me but I never responded.So she felt the only way she could get him away from me was to tell a lie.She reported to the church that she saw him rape me in the church.Our church was going through renovations and I was helping him paint a side corridor.So the church big whigs went after me over her lie as if he was the victim.they never questioned him.Even though he never did anything to me I found it strange they were after me and not him since they believed he raped me.So I asked them doesn't it concern you a bit that there is a "rapist" in the church? Iasked them why were they so "angry" with me the "victim"? Of course I didn't get an answer. Just proved to me that some men look at females as a whole this way..were always the blame it seems even in cases where nothing happened. Imagine if it did.

By the way..I left that church and wrote them a scathing letter as to why.

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See post 65 for reply in context. n/t ieoeja Dec 2012 #67

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