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liberal_at_heart

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54. we're about to have to do that with our daughter

Reply to obamanut2012 (Original post)

Wed Dec 26, 2012, 07:17 PM

Dec 2012

She is going to start receiving SSDI checks directly to her and not to us. We still need some of that money to help pay rent, so she is going to open a checking account and pay us rent. She only has about six months left in high school. After that the SSDI checks stop and she is hoping to get an apartment with a friend near the college she wants to go to. Luckily we were told by the Social Security department that the money in her 529 can stay there until she is ready to use it for tuition. I'm not sure why someone would do this if the child is not receiving disability. I think that children should be supported by their parents until they graduate high school, but I guess some people want to make sure their kids are ready for the cold, cruel world by making them pay as soon as they are an adult whether they are still in high school or not. I would much rather my daughter study for finals and get ready for the SATs than work.

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Charging an 18-year-old in high school rent [View all] obamanut2012 Dec 2012 OP

Do you know they aren't having financial difficulties? Indydem Dec 2012 #1

A high school kid's job is being a student obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #2

I had a friend who's dad made her pay rent. Indydem Dec 2012 #5

I am judging the parents, you better believe it obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #7

The OP was not a Minor. Indydem Dec 2012 #10

Your friend's child was a minor obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #15

5.5 Hours at $8.50 Indydem Dec 2012 #18

It is a high school student obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #23

A Moral Philosophy Indydem Dec 2012 #34

I would be very careful making any judgments here karynnj Dec 2012 #86

i don't get why the more conservative poster here is taking this position on parenting CreekDog Dec 2012 #78

5 hours of work plus school plus HOMEWORK? Then sleeping, eating, etc. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #106

5 HOURS A WEEK. Indydem Dec 2012 #131

It's a bit more than that... you forget mandatory deductions and travel,clothing expenses. nt TheBlackAdder Dec 2012 #117

All that time he was putting it into a savings account for her. abelenkpe Dec 2012 #13

How does the OP know what the parents are doing? Indydem Dec 2012 #16

It doesn't make a difference obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #25

Why? Indydem Dec 2012 #26

you don't tell your job when you can work lost-in-nj Dec 2012 #57

Most part-time jobs will ask for the applicant's availability tammywammy Dec 2012 #68

Unless you put 24/7 (or close to it) they roundcan the application though. And it's not a SWTORFanatic Dec 2012 #72

my daughter has a friend who was being asked to work more liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #85

This is the attitude the RW loves to give SWTORFanatic Dec 2012 #64

This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl Dec 2012 #29

Clarification: Indydem Dec 2012 #38

OK see abelenkpe Dec 2012 #35

We were raised to be resposbible with money obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #44

You didn't have a car at all? Not even one to borrow? AverageJoe90 Dec 2012 #73

Yeah. wickerwoman Dec 2012 #82

I did that with my daughter and she used the money Skidmore Dec 2012 #71

I agree. Kids need to focus on school, not work to support parents. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #103

Maybe they need the money to buy assault weapons? RetroLounge Dec 2012 #49

I hear the prices are going up. Indydem Dec 2012 #51

Well, maybe you can pitch in... RetroLounge Dec 2012 #59

^^^^^THIS^^^^^ HangOnKids Dec 2012 #67

Well-played, good sir. Well-played indeed. Chan790 Dec 2012 #76

True colors here! morningfog Dec 2012 #98

LOLOLOLOL morningfog Dec 2012 #97

That is pretty bad. alphafemale Dec 2012 #3

Seems a bit much ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2012 #4

I asked that obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #8

Pretty much crap. If I'm renting, a landlord doesn't get to say how SWTORFanatic Dec 2012 #69

The smart-ass in me would take my parents to housing court. Chan790 Dec 2012 #77

A parent should never charge their kid rent... no matter how old they are... Comrade_McKenzie Dec 2012 #6

My mother agrees with you obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #11

You forgot the sarcasm thingie FrodosPet Dec 2012 #43

Sorry, but your opinion is about as cold and hard-hearted as it can get.... OldDem2012 Dec 2012 #79

Oh, yeah? jberryhill Dec 2012 #110

100% agree laundry_queen Dec 2012 #58

Worth the read Tsiyu Dec 2012 #100

My son shares expenses with me Marrah_G Dec 2012 #121

That Goes Too Far ProfessorGAC Dec 2012 #138

Just as you never know No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #9

What would be a reason for this? obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #12

Too many possible reasons to list- No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #41

Nope, none of that obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #45

HOW DO YOU KNOW? Indydem Dec 2012 #50

Are you a parent? Earth_First Dec 2012 #14

Immaterial who is or isn't a parent in this thread obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #17

It's the making them quit their activities that is disturbing abelenkpe Dec 2012 #22

I agree obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #27

Exactly. The parent is seriously disrupting the kid's education anneboleyn Dec 2012 #104

Amen to that jberryhill Dec 2012 #111

I'm curious why you would even ask that question... OldDem2012 Dec 2012 #81

You don't have to be a parent to know good parenting, or Lex Dec 2012 #83

My sister is doing this to her 17 year old son abelenkpe Dec 2012 #19

In my state, it's illegal to charge a minor child room and board obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #30

she will end up with no one Skittles Dec 2012 #31

Disgusting laundry_queen Dec 2012 #62

I know. I really love the kid, too! abelenkpe Dec 2012 #87

I agree. Messing with a kid's education is very serious. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #99

In other words....not to be like her? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2012 #92

She doesn't happen to live in Ga. by chance? Claybrains Dec 2012 #123

Naw, they are in VA abelenkpe Dec 2012 #136

So, there's no curfew and she can have men "sleep" over? MrSlayer Dec 2012 #20

I agree, but the curfew and stuff is still in place obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #28

It seems ridiculous to me then. MrSlayer Dec 2012 #61

I am very thankful for my parents obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #21

25 years ago in high school Quantess Dec 2012 #24

I can understand in a really strapped family obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #36

Finances may play a role. As an orphan, I recieved benefit from my dad's earnings. No one wanted us. freshwest Dec 2012 #47

It appears that you turned out well despite not having it easy during your teen years. No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #52

That would be a matter of conjecture that I don't indulge others with online. freshwest Dec 2012 #53

You're correct No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #63

Freshwest, you speak wise words and offer good advice. iemitsu Dec 2012 #133

I had to pay for my own clothes and stuff about the time I turned 16. Kaleva Dec 2012 #32

I don't think kids should pay for their own clothes obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #39

I grew up in a poor family. Kaleva Dec 2012 #70

In my father's family the 3 boys had to drop out of high school but the 3 girls finished. freshwest Dec 2012 #91

After reading this thread you would judge me a bad parent Marrah_G Dec 2012 #122

Being in a family is being part of a team exboyfil Dec 2012 #33

Someone else's family, someone else's business slackmaster Dec 2012 #37

Not when they talk about it, it isn't obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #40

Well, an 18-year-old is no longer a child in the eyes of the law slackmaster Dec 2012 #46

Most states, in the case of divorced parents treestar Dec 2012 #127

Great pic! tabasco Dec 2012 #42

Oh, some things are our collective business jberryhill Dec 2012 #115

Having to go put for the evening obamanut2012 Dec 2012 #48

we're about to have to do that with our daughter liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #54

It's a tradeoff. ananda Dec 2012 #55

Sickening - KT2000 Dec 2012 #56

Wish I could recommend this post laundry_queen Dec 2012 #66

thanks - expected KT2000 Dec 2012 #74

OMG! Child abuse!! Maybe it is a 'Life lesson'. And some kids get kicked out. Worse?? Logical Dec 2012 #60

Could they move to a friend's house and then claim homelessness? pstokely Dec 2012 #65

My parents charged me "room and board" when I turned 16 and got a job. Lone_Star_Dem Dec 2012 #75

That's terrible, but I can top it: CreekDog Dec 2012 #80

my folks had me work for them, in the kennel and show ring, larkrake Dec 2012 #84

I would rather my children spend that 4 to 5 hours studying liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #88

Some people do that jberryhill Dec 2012 #89

My stepmother started charging me rent when I was 16. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #90

Similar story here. Moved out at 17. eallen Dec 2012 #107

i was accepted into early attendance at college at 16, my mom said 'if you're out of high school, NMDemDist2 Dec 2012 #93

I don't blame you liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #96

that's bullshit, especially with the girl still in school LynneSin Dec 2012 #94

Great post. It is entirely selfish, as you note. anneboleyn Dec 2012 #102

Growing up in the 50s and 60s, charging rent to kids only happened if they weren't in school eridani Dec 2012 #95

A warm room, food, water, utilities, garbage and laundry service, for $200 per month? Nye Bevan Dec 2012 #101

I think $1 a day is suitable for a young person working part-time in high school. TheDebbieDee Dec 2012 #105

As some DUer wisely noted in another post choie Dec 2012 #108

I always wanted my kids to do better than I have done liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #109

Are they paying tax on that income? jberryhill Dec 2012 #112

Only a scumbag parent would do that. TheBlackAdder Dec 2012 #113

I can't believe how gullible some of you are Beaverhausen Dec 2012 #114

what makes you say that? KT2000 Dec 2012 #116

The way the OP has laid out the story Beaverhausen Dec 2012 #119

The OP is getting the story second or third-hand. No Vested Interest Dec 2012 #134

definitely teaching all the wrong lessons in that scenario Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2012 #118

When I was younger theKed Dec 2012 #120

I could see have them work for the summer or something but you're really taking a chance liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #124

Here is an interesting mikiturner Dec 2012 #125

good point liberal_at_heart Dec 2012 #128

I would move... Kalidurga Dec 2012 #126

eee... that's bad HEyHEY Dec 2012 #129

That is total BS- it's a cheap way to make a buck off your kid. PERIOD. UNLESS you have $ issues. cecilfirefox Dec 2012 #130

I am conflicted GobBluth Dec 2012 #132

I agree with those saying she is now legally a tenant. NYC Liberal Dec 2012 #135

It's really none of anybody's damn business. HappyMe Dec 2012 #137