Sadistic Trump Admin Rescinds Min Staffing Rules for Nursing Homes

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40. I'm basically in the same situation as you, moonscape...

scary as hell, isn't it? I cared for my mom for 2 years in our home. But when she couldn't recognize my husband any longer, and had a number of falls which necessitated calling for help to get her off the floor, I knew she'd gone beyond how I could help. Plus, she called EMS to go to the hospital with imagined pains so many times, I got notice she wasn't going to be able to do that much more unless we paid in full for those costs. In addition, she'd gotten violent and belligerent (like trump) in her dementia. It was heartbreaking.

We had a weekend to find a memory care home for her. The one we found was too far for me to visit every day, but we went up often and made sure she was a part of all holidays, birthdays, etc. We were bringing her back home for day visits when we realized she was too far gone, and we needed to bring the parties to her, instead. I lost her a few days before my birthday this year.

I don't have anyone here who can serve as a caregiver for me. I'm taking care of my husband, who at times can be just as big a handful as my mom ever was! LOL. but me? My daughter is a narcissist who knows everyone in the family has said to get out from the guy she's living with before he kills her. She won't have anything to do with any of us since then. The only thing my daughter would do would be whatever was best for her and not caring at all about anything else.

I've pretty much assumed when it comes time I'm free of my hubby needing me, and I can feel myself getting worse, that I'd work hard to save up some of my pain meds and take myself out that way. It's the only way forward I can see...