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Ilsa

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21. I always tell my female friends to trust their gut.

Tue Jan 13, 2026, 04:10 PM

Jan 13

Learn to discern between imagination and reality with the gut feeling. It takes practice. Personally, I believe this type of intuition is a gift from God for women.

I went with a friend to his house for lunch one day. We were both about 20 years old. His father showed up for lunch as well and we met for the first time. I greeted him with a handshake and smile, and then I got the creepiest feeling, like he was seeing me naked. Maybe he looked at me a tenth of a second too long. Or he didn't release the handshake soon enough. Anyway, I avoided being alone with him. Thirty-five years later I heard gross stories about him making passes at his wife's married friends. And another story that he molested his toddler grandchild while they were in the pool. I believe he died in prison, transferred to another state, after another molestation felony.

Busfield never made an impression on me, except to say I never sought him out in other shows and movies. I simply felt nothing for him. Zero attraction, which for that time in my life, was unusual.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] PeaceWave Jan 13 OP

I watched 'Thirty Something' when it aired. BlueWaveNeverEnd Jan 13 #1

I'm gonna say something here: PCIntern Jan 13 #2

Couldn't stand him on "The West Wing" 31st Street Bridge Jan 13 #3

Agreed... PCIntern Jan 13 #4

CJ could have done a lot better. greatauntoftriplets Jan 13 #20

He always creeped me out too Danmel Jan 13 #11

I always tell my female friends to trust their gut. Ilsa Jan 13 #21

(and yes, men do equally horrendous things) MorbidButterflyTat Jan 13 #22

Interesting. H2O Man Jan 14 #33

The guy who played Poindexter? flvegan Jan 13 #5

I couldn't remember his character 's name MustLoveBeagles Jan 13 #8

I watched it recently and enjoyed it BannonsLiver Jan 13 #14

Hiding out at the Omega Mu sorority maybe. miyazaki Jan 13 #15

Rape as comedy clevergrrrl Jan 13 #16

coming soon... "Thirtysomething to Life" shelshaw Jan 13 #6

I remember him from Revenge of the Nerds MustLoveBeagles Jan 13 #7

I've watched his appearances and work for many years and did not know he was married to hlthe2b Jan 13 #9

Running and hiding from arrest certainly doesn't say "I'm innocent". LudwigPastorius Jan 13 #10

I recognized the name, but, in looking at his imdb list, don't think I ever niyad Jan 13 #12

I remember liking him and his reddish hair and beard and being kind of funny Beringia Jan 13 #13

He was in two of my favorite baseball movies Tommy Carcetti Jan 13 #17

I Just Watched Little Big League... ProfessorGAC Jan 13 #24

It came out around the same time as Rookie of the Year... Tommy Carcetti Jan 13 #25

Agreed ProfessorGAC Jan 13 #28

I didn't like his character on Thirtysomething, but that just means he did a good job. hamsterjill Jan 13 #18

Exactly, its best to get the facts Raine Jan 13 #29

He has turned himself in. North Shore Chicago Jan 13 #19

Good MustLoveBeagles Jan 13 #23

Timothy Busfield has broken his silence and turned himself in to New Mexico authorities LetMyPeopleVote Jan 13 #26

Love it. Tried and convicted on social media. h2ebits Jan 13 #27

Yes. I would think the left would want some facts Raine Jan 13 #30

thank you Skittles Jan 13 #31

Yes, it sure got ugly here. MorbidButterflyTat Jan 14 #32