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mercuryblues

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4. My best advice

Reply to NewHendoLib (Original post)

Thu Jan 22, 2026, 05:44 PM

19 hrs ago

Is you, your wife and daughter need to sit down and get on the same page how to protect the child. How far are you willing to go. Be prepared and document everything you know he has done, for sure. If you know any of his exes, talk to them, if they are willing.
IOW, you want to be prepared for his crap, instead of reacting to it. Take that power away from him.

Talk to a psychiatrist on how to deal with him. Get the best lawyer you can afford, again ask for recommendations from people you trust.

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I can't find an appropriate place for this - seeking legal advice, or advice from folks with a malignant narcissist in [View all] NewHendoLib 20 hrs ago OP

You are indeed in a tenuous situation. yellow dahlia 20 hrs ago #1

The only thing that will work is for him to die. You haven't met my family. NT mahatmakanejeeves 19 hrs ago #2

I agree completely with what you wrote in the second paragraph about the type of lawyer you need. highplainsdem 19 hrs ago #3

My best advice mercuryblues 19 hrs ago #4

Just here to say i feel for you. bluestarone 19 hrs ago #5

one bit of advice -- not legal but important, imho -- unblock 19 hrs ago #6