Back in the day, my grandmother worked at some of the most exclusive clubs

[NJCher]

2. Lost opportunity on the part of Republicans

When running for office, personal contact is very important. Especially in this day and age, where attention is at a premium, the personal contact makes a difference.

How much trouble would it have been for a republican to join the staff in the back for a shot? They were already there. It would’ve been a matter of 15 or 20 minutes.

Think about it: one has a preference for a politician they have met and had a favorable interaction with. Because I am in a union, I have met many of the New Jersey assembly members and senators. It makes a difference. Here is an example:

Most New Jersey readers of this post will know who Steve Sweeney is. It is no surprise that Sweeney is not very popular with people who might read DU.

However, when Sweeney came to a union meeting prior to the election, he gave a speech. (All the others spoke, too.) The speech pointed out the role of experience with a legislator. It made sense! And so doing, Sweeney pointed out his “unique selling proposition.“

In addition, he was dressed professionally in a business suit. I watched
him interact with other candidates, but mostly with the teachers at the meeting. This was after all the speeches had been given.He was able to establish a rapport with each person relatively rapidly.

I think the OP‘s point was about caring. I wanted to add that it is also about taking full advantage of an opportunity.