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Hope22

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31. My R sister married and divorced three times.....she moved back to her state of birth
Mon Feb 16, 2026, 04:37 PM
Feb 16

after becoming disabled with a terminal disease. 2009 so even then you needed a photo ID to vote and travel by plane. I gathered up her divorce papers, birth certificate and every document posted on the SOS Website and headed out to the DMV. She was wheelchair bound so getting around in a car was a big job. After waiting 45 minutes at the DMV we were called to the counter. Her social security number was entered into the system and lo and behold that number was associated with another name. Yes, her maiden name from the driver license issued when she was 17. Of course I only had access to her most recent divorce papers, current drivers license and passport. Ten states away, two additional marriage certificates and two sets of divorce papers was not going to be an easy get! Even though she was backed into a corner my other sister who was with us leaned over and whispered to her that she may have to marry our cousin Billy to get her name back. Of course we burst out laughing.(when we told Billy about this later he was all in and thought it was at least a solution that would get sister an ID to vote) I was busy scooping up papers trying to leave nothing behind when a man who had been waiting and watching the shenanigans of the clerk for what seemed like forever came up to us and said, ‘I don’t know what the problem you ladies are having is but I have to say that you have the best senses of humor I have ever seen. We thanked him as it took some of the sting out of the whole debacle. We left and headed home.

You may ask how I got the whole thing worked out and why would I care knowing my sister was going to cancel out my vote. Everyone deserves their right to vote. And what I did involved using privilege to solve the problem and I’m not proud of it. Technically we had every document necessary as the website list did not state all divorce proceedings back to the point of maiden name were necessary. The next DMV I went to was headed by someone who knew me. She could see that technically I did have the papers that were asked for. She could see that my sister was in a world of hurt and processed the State ID for us. So many women will lose their their right to vote and travel about if they implement the birth certificate name matching the ID 30, 40,50 years down the road. It is complete insanity. For the most part this will affect females. I guess it’s time to stop changing names for whatever reason.

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🤔 Gee, they didn't seem to think this one out underpants Feb 16 #1
They don't think anything through. ChicagoTeamster Feb 16 #16
RepubliSCUM don't believe that the law of unintended consequences applies to THEM. MLWR Feb 16 #23
Definitely not, especially since polling research has been showing that married women Jack Valentino Feb 16 #35
I am looking forward to having all the MAGAt women around me losing their votes UpInArms Feb 16 #2
trad wives change their name more often RainCaster Feb 16 #3
I was going to say the same thing AZJonnie Feb 16 #12
We used my wife's (better) surname for our kids. thought crime Feb 16 #14
They also have marriage certificates. Why would they be unable to vote? pcdb Feb 16 #30
Because marriage certificates are not a valid form of ID in the SAVE Act /nt Sweet Freedom Feb 16 #34
Right, but one would use the marriage certificate to get a valid form of ID to vote. pcdb Feb 16 #39
More hoops to jump through, in a country where so many people already think voting is too much trouble. tblue37 Feb 17 #41
SHOCKER! FalloutShelter Feb 16 #4
In normal times, it would be a slam-dunk loser in the courts Wednesdays Feb 16 #22
I hope this is true and the SAVE ACT dies a miserable death peggysue2 Feb 16 #5
Easy to get papers. Know Rick! usonian Feb 16 #6
Progressive women (and probably others as well) - TBF Feb 16 #7
That might be the easiest way to proceed. NH Ethylene Feb 16 #9
I have everything in my lock box - TBF Feb 16 #10
I actually looked into changing mine back maptap22 Feb 16 #27
I went to my local county court and filled out a form. NH Ethylene Feb 16 #29
I hear you - but I did all mine myself TBF Feb 16 #38
I am still curious to know what JD Vance's birth certificate name is Walleye Feb 16 #8
Also more Democrats than Republican women are likely to keep their maiden name in marriage SSJVegeta Feb 16 #11
Republicans also seem to think that only Republican women get married. Quiet Em Feb 16 #13
Valid Point F-18_AMO Feb 16 #15
Back then, people would look at you strange if you said Zackzzzz Feb 16 #17
Republican women might be more inclined to take their hubby's names, too. nt Exp Feb 16 #18
Its possible the MAGATS are worried about this aspect of the Save Act, sdfernando Feb 16 #19
As Home Simpson would say..... ProudMNDemocrat Feb 16 #20
They really just want the optics of them pushing it and it failing jgmiller Feb 16 #21
I thought that too. durablend Feb 16 #24
I also think more Democratic women didn't change their last name when they married Buckeyeblue Feb 16 #25
I live in red hell Traildogbob Feb 16 #26
Said this last week Boo1 Feb 16 #28
My R sister married and divorced three times.....she moved back to her state of birth Hope22 Feb 16 #31
Also, liberal women are more likely to retain their name Miguelito Loveless Feb 16 #32
this is bad for everyone. themaguffin Feb 16 #33
Not only that mercuryblues Feb 16 #36
I'd also point out that right wing women Bettie Feb 16 #37
Makes some sense. Also, women in general aren't gonna like this. Joinfortmill Feb 17 #40
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