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Buddyzbuddy

(2,659 posts)
71. You couldn't possibly have failed her.
Wed Mar 18, 2026, 07:26 PM
Mar 18

Not the person that took her in 10 years ago with the silent promise to take care of her to the best of their ability with the limited knowledge to do so and the person that wrote "But she was the most sweatest, loving little dog one could ever hope to have."

Like most of us who have rescued dogs, unless you're an animal vet, your knowledge is limited by your experiences and advice.
Don't get me started on how many horrendous mistakes I've made with our pet companions but I've learned from each experience that helps each rescued companion that has followed to live a better, happier life. But like you, I carry the guilt of those mistakes and mourned the deep loss of our companions.

I feel great sorrow for the loss you and your family are experiencing.
When the emotional pain has lessened with time, know that Peanut was loved and cared for and knew it. Peanut is the reason you will be better with any future rescues. Thank you for passing on your suggestion. Thank you, Peanut.
Be well, AZ8theist.

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My deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Mar 18 #1
I am so sorry for your loss. BlueKota Mar 18 #2
My deepest sympathies and condolences. AltairIV Mar 18 #3
Dogs are good people Zelda_Orchid Mar 18 #4
The best Dave says Mar 18 #22
Oh AZ8theist, you didn't fail her. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. femmedem Mar 18 #5
You did not fail her malaise Mar 18 #6
Dear Peanut, cross gently over the Rainbow Bridge FakeNoose Mar 18 #7
Crossing The Rainbow Bridge by Stella Violano George McGovern Mar 18 #8
I LOVE that!! 70sEraVet Mar 18 #10
Oh WOW. What a beautiful painting! Tears beginning ..... Diamond_Dog Mar 18 #26
I, too, deal with guilt over the death of my last dog. 70sEraVet Mar 18 #9
Rest gently Peanut lonely bird Mar 18 #11
I'm so sorry AZ8theist, please be kind to yourself today. JMCKUSICK Mar 18 #12
I'm so sorry mountain grammy Mar 18 #13
My sympathies to you and your clan. Swede Mar 18 #14
I am so so very sorry for your loss. irisblue Mar 18 #15
I am so sorry. LoisB Mar 18 #16
Lady of the Beasts, please take your little Peanut gently home in Your niyad Mar 18 #17
Condolences gademocrat7 Mar 18 #18
I'm so sorry for your loss. You did not fail her. Phoenix61 Mar 18 #19
I am so sorry get the red out Mar 18 #20
Sorry for your loss. Americanme Mar 18 #21
You did the right thing you stopped your friend from hurting but that doesn't stop you from feeling the hurt 2. Botany Mar 18 #23
What a beautiful girl. StarryNite Mar 18 #24
So sorry for your loss. FalloutShelter Mar 18 #25
You did not fail her. kellytore Mar 18 #27
You gave Peanut a loving home for ten years. That counts for everything. Diamond_Dog Mar 18 #28
I'm sorry AZ8theist 😥 Aw Peanut Clouds Passing Mar 18 #29
Deepest condolences on the loss of Peanut. virgdem Mar 18 #30
My profound condolences to you. kairos12 Mar 18 #31
So sorry for your loss, AZ8theist. democrank Mar 18 #32
It is hard saying goodbye to a family member LetMyPeopleVote Mar 18 #33
So sorry about Peanut. But you didn't fail her. Bluepinky Mar 18 #34
Thank you for saying this, Bluepinky EuterpeThelo Mar 18 #76
I love everything about your response. Bluepinky Mar 19 #81
You may not be a "believer" Mme. Defarge Mar 18 #35
My dear AZ8theist, you absolutely, positively did NOT fail your beloved Peanut! First of all, you rescued her! Second, LaMouffette Mar 18 #36
Love this, LM. Thanks for sharing and I hope it brings some comfort to the OP. EuterpeThelo Mar 18 #77
My deepest condolences for the loss of your husband, EuterpeThelo. I had a visit from my mom the same night she passed. LaMouffette Mar 19 #84
Thanks, LM. EuterpeThelo Mar 19 #85
Very sorry for your loss of Peanut. Prairie_Seagull Mar 18 #37
I am so sorry, AZ8theist. My deepest condolences to you and your family. HeartsCanHope Mar 18 #38
Oh no, you didn't fail her... róisín_dubh Mar 18 #39
You did not fail her. You took her in and loved her for years and years. I know you are greiving but don't please stop ratchiweenie Mar 18 #40
Such a sweet face PatSeg Mar 18 #41
Peanut was beautiful dog 🐕😍 MustLoveBeagles Mar 18 #42
Dear AZ8theist, You did not fail Peanut Grim Chieftain Mar 18 #43
rest in peace peanut. i am so sorry for the loss of your fur baby az8theist dawn5651 Mar 18 #44
Oh, AZ8theist, the sorrow and overwhelming loss you are feeling is the sure sign that your Peanut had the best and KitFox Mar 18 #45
I am so sorry for you Scubamatt Mar 18 #46
My heart goes out to you. chowder66 Mar 18 #47
Good advice. And same for humans. Dental health affects the rest of the body... CousinIT Mar 18 #48
So sorry for your loss - TBF Mar 18 #49
We've been there! Lulu KC Mar 18 #50
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Mar 18 #51
I'm so sorry. area51 Mar 18 #52
I'm so sorry for your loss of sweet Peanut. My sympathy livetohike Mar 18 #53
Prayers for your broken heart 💔 Ten years of tender loving care gave Peanut her best life so now she can rest in peace Deuxcents Mar 18 #54
I am so sorry cate94 Mar 18 #55
Oh no leftstreet Mar 18 #56
RIP Peanut Figarosmom Mar 18 #57
Please do not blame yourself. Bumbles Mar 18 #58
Please be as gentle with yourself as you would be with a friend in your shoes. pat_k Mar 18 #59
so very sorry peacebuzzard Mar 18 #60
I'm so sorry for your loss doubleplusgood Mar 18 #61
so sorry AZ8theist Skittles Mar 18 #62
I'm So Sorry NEOH Mar 18 #63
I am so sorry, AZ8theist. It wasn't your fault. May the memories of sweet Peanut be a blessing to you. debm55 Mar 18 #64
I'm so very sorry stage left Mar 18 #65
I'm so sorry! redwitch Mar 18 #66
Peanut would not want you to blame yourself and feel guilty senseandsensibility Mar 18 #67
Nothing prepares us for the loss of a loved one. 💧💔 littlemissmartypants Mar 18 #68
I am so sorry for your loss! debsy Mar 18 #69
You loved her, you didn't fail her Raine Mar 18 #70
You couldn't possibly have failed her. Buddyzbuddy Mar 18 #71
I am so sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Mar 18 #72
This was a big help to me the last time we went through this. Abolishinist Mar 18 #73
I spent $4,000 on my Chihuahua's teeth BigmanPigman Mar 18 #74
I'm so sorry, AZ8theist. We are still not over missing our little guy, Buddy. He was the best. summer_in_TX Mar 18 #75
It's normal tp blame yourself in your grief. soldierant Mar 18 #78
You loved that dog, you didn't fail it. Give yourself a break, losing a dog is tough enough. dem4decades Mar 18 #79
I'm sorry you're hurting JoseBalow Mar 19 #80
Very sad Old Crank Mar 19 #82
I'm so sorry for your loss wendyb-NC Mar 19 #83
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