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Figarosmom

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4. Yes, taught to be nice is abig one.

Tue Apr 14, 2026, 04:19 PM

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I've stopped doing that. Have had to get downright mean on some occasions when the guy just doesn't take the hint and stops bothering me. Than getting mean can get you in worse danger if the guy wants to get even. So we are pit into these catch 22 positions.

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??? niyad Tuesday #17

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