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Bettie

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1. Don't sell yourself short

Reply to Ilsa (Original post)

Sat May 16, 2026, 10:18 AM

22 hrs ago

emotional support, especially over long distances is hard, not having the non-verbal cues can lead to self-doubt and overthinking...not that I know anything about that.

You all did the best you could. That's all any of us can do, but it is heroic to keep on.

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I feel like I need to clarify something about Texas Towelie's [View all] Ilsa 22 hrs ago OP

Don't sell yourself short Bettie 22 hrs ago #1

Hugs to you Ilsa sdfernando 22 hrs ago #2

Exactly understated, the same way a superhero would put it. Doing all you could was a lot. That's what a superhero... marble falls 21 hrs ago #3

Thank you for bringing us along on this journey, Ilsa. calimary 21 hrs ago #4

Not all superhero folks wear capes! ZDU 21 hrs ago #5

Emotional support is what keeps all of us sane, Ilsa UpInArms 21 hrs ago #6

It's okay. A steady presence has as much positive effect as a superhero. haele 21 hrs ago #7

Just to share FullySupportDems 21 hrs ago #8

indeed NJCher 20 hrs ago #9

Crying is cathartic. Sharing helps release the tears wnylib 20 hrs ago #10

You provided emotional support to your family Niagara 20 hrs ago #11

Again, thank you for any support to Paul LetMyPeopleVote 20 hrs ago #12

Thank you for sharing. CaptainTruth 19 hrs ago #13

You carried an incredible burden, with grace Ilsa. JMCKUSICK 19 hrs ago #14

Thank You for sharing. I was unaware of his passing. I often liked and commented on his posts. My condolences. ChicagoTeamster 19 hrs ago #15

We can't even be everything for our own selves. IbogaProject 19 hrs ago #16

Ilsa, you did everything you could. That makes you a hero. Superheroes are fictional and are only highplainsdem 17 hrs ago #17

I've been looking for signs for 3 years. No joy, yet. Ilsa 17 hrs ago #18

It's possible you missed some when you were griefstricken. But there are some things that can help highplainsdem 16 hrs ago #21

Thanks for this share blue_jay 14 hrs ago #23

sometimes the signs are there for us but we don't make the connection to our loved ones. orleans 5 hrs ago #30

Just want to say that, Through the power of your own words, we know exactly how good a person you are! bluestarone 17 hrs ago #19

Wishing you comfort and peace from here on out. You've been through a lot. 10 Turtle Day 16 hrs ago #20

You were there for emotional support BeneteauBum 16 hrs ago #22

you're a good sister Skittles 13 hrs ago #24

You're a wonderful sister. Even given your shock and heartbreak, you came here to let us know. lapucelle 12 hrs ago #25

You did what you could MustLoveBeagles 12 hrs ago #26

My philosophy... oldsoldierfadingfast 11 hrs ago #27

Oh! Missed this. My condolences. electric_blue68 11 hrs ago #28

Oh JustAnotherGen 9 hrs ago #29

I am sorry about Texas Towelie.nt jfz9580m 59 min ago #31