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malaise

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Tue Jun 2, 2026, 01:58 PM 16 hrs ago

"I've never heard a white man talk about impostor syndrome. I haven't met one." [View all]

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2026/jun/02/michelle-obama-white-men-not-worry-impostor-syndrome

White men do not have to worry about impostor syndrome, according to Michelle Obama, who said she had sat “at every powerful table there is” and not found one who admitted feeling such self-doubt.

The former US first lady told SXSW London that she wanted to “demystify” what it was like to sit in elite meetings, which she said were often populated by people from diverse backgrounds who felt like outsiders.

“There’s so many people like me, like you: women, minorities, folks who aren’t supposed to be at these tables … they are sitting around thinking that they’re impostors,” she said.

“I’ve never heard a white man talk about impostor syndrome. I haven’t met one.”

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Perhaps, the White Men don't understand the imposter syndrum. chouchou 16 hrs ago #1
I love Michelle, but yeah... NO. I suffer from that almost every day. Happy Hoosier 16 hrs ago #2
Yes there are non-elite white men malaise 16 hrs ago #6
It was clear H2O Man 15 hrs ago #22
Agree malaise 15 hrs ago #30
Please explain it then, is she only talking the upper crust hoity toity stuff? questionseverything 15 hrs ago #33
"at every powerful table there is" H2O Man 13 hrs ago #59
Respectfully, she sits at the highest table. mr715 13 hrs ago #66
I'm fine with H2O Man 13 hrs ago #68
I assume no one sits near those tables. mr715 13 hrs ago #69
Right. H2O Man 12 hrs ago #75
I'm not understanding something. mr715 12 hrs ago #79
Okay. H2O Man 8 hrs ago #86
Thank you for taking the time to write this reply to help me understand mr715 8 hrs ago #87
Thank you H2O Man 6 hrs ago #88
This is a perfect example of white privilege: Celerity 12 hrs ago #82
That's great H2O Man 12 hrs ago #84
She sat at dinner tables not the meeting table... questionseverything 12 hrs ago #73
Oh H2O Man 12 hrs ago #76
The Obama White House was pretty transparent about what the president and first family were doing questionseverything 12 hrs ago #78
Well yes, she could have. H2O Man 12 hrs ago #81
This message was self-deleted by its author questionseverything 12 hrs ago #74
Name one time H2O Man 12 hrs ago #77
I think that you are not alone. I understand what Michrlle means, but wnylib 15 hrs ago #26
ironically in my work -- the imposters never seem to feel like imposters. just arrogant POS JT45242 15 hrs ago #31
Agree that impostors nevrr seem to feel like impostors. wnylib 14 hrs ago #36
Absolutely... furthermore... Happy Hoosier 15 hrs ago #32
But did THEY acknowledge that they were impostors is the question... live love laugh 5 hrs ago #90
Totally agree. Michelle may not know many working class white men. johnnyplankton 14 hrs ago #45
You just described me genxlib 13 hrs ago #56
I'm a white man getting a Ph.D. in neurobiology mr715 16 hrs ago #3
Similar here but working in higher level technology OC375 15 hrs ago #25
Just be glad your not a white dumbass, like me! Doodley 12 hrs ago #71
I'm a white dumbass. mr715 12 hrs ago #72
I appreciate her candor MustLoveBeagles 16 hrs ago #4
Funny that it's resulted in some reasoned TheProle 13 hrs ago #53
She needs to meet more people Renew Deal 16 hrs ago #5
I'm black but a disagree. tman 16 hrs ago #7
Trmp at a Mensa meeting would feel that he was among a whole bunch of imposters. nt eppur_se_muova 16 hrs ago #8
Yup. Kid Berwyn 16 hrs ago #9
Right! H2O Man 15 hrs ago #24
Well, she certainly hasn't met everyone. BlueTsunami2018 16 hrs ago #10
Hanks has it because deep down, he knows Peter Scolari was the better actor on "bosom buddies" unblock 16 hrs ago #13
I've seen astronauts discuss it Sympthsical 15 hrs ago #15
"When they go low..." mr715 15 hrs ago #19
during my work years i occasionally felt like i was faking it. rampartd 16 hrs ago #11
So that's what it's called... NewHendoLib 16 hrs ago #12
She doesn't appear to have any close white male friends Bok_Tukalo 15 hrs ago #14
Hi, Mrs. Obama. I'm Aristus. Nice to meet you. I am a great admirer of you and your husband. Aristus 15 hrs ago #16
. mr715 15 hrs ago #18
All those unqualified white morons in the current administration Americanme 15 hrs ago #17
I wish there was a pill? Prairie_Seagull 15 hrs ago #20
Ah, sweet Xanax... mr715 13 hrs ago #60
He may not talk about it, but our so-called President has deep insecurity about not being good enough, good looking Sogo 15 hrs ago #21
And he has never forgiven the New York elites for not malaise 15 hrs ago #28
Exactly. He will never admit to it, but some tiny part of him... 3catwoman3 14 hrs ago #38
Then she should meet me nuxvomica 15 hrs ago #23
Recommended. H2O Man 15 hrs ago #27
I read it Sympthsical 15 hrs ago #35
Thank you. I respect Ms Obama, but this is some tone-deaf shit TheProle 14 hrs ago #42
Oh hell, I'm there Sympthsical 14 hrs ago #44
Kudos on the courage for a career change TheProle 14 hrs ago #47
Congrats. mr715 13 hrs ago #51
No thank you. H2O Man 13 hrs ago #54
retirement freed me from imposter syndrome mike_c 15 hrs ago #29
No offense to her, but I'm guessing she's not really in the same circles as white men who experience imposter syndrome. WhiskeyGrinder 15 hrs ago #34
In creative circles, that's pretty much everyone. C_U_L8R 14 hrs ago #37
It's the difference between being welcome at the table dlk 14 hrs ago #39
I'll admit to the imposter syndrome BeneteauBum 14 hrs ago #40
OK, I looked it up Skittles 14 hrs ago #46
Thanks Skittles BeneteauBum 13 hrs ago #62
yup Skittles 12 hrs ago #83
I wanted to be an estuary ecologist when I was in college. mr715 13 hrs ago #57
It was a rewarding career BeneteauBum 13 hrs ago #65
Both my youngest son and I, white men have experienced it. NNadir 14 hrs ago #41
IIRC, when asked if she was ever intimidated by these meetings, she said, "No, they're not all that smart." OMGWTF 14 hrs ago #43
Maybe Michelle Obama had a different meaning FakeNoose 14 hrs ago #48
I hate to say this: PCIntern 13 hrs ago #49
She hasn't talked to me. Hassler 13 hrs ago #50
Sorry Mrs Obama ironman99 13 hrs ago #52
I think it's very naive to assume it never happens to white men Skittles 13 hrs ago #55
Well, I've never heard a black woman talk about impostor syndrome. Intractable 13 hrs ago #58
That's hyperbolic, and may be true in her experience, but not universally true. Ursus Rex 13 hrs ago #61
Huge gaffe... gulliver 13 hrs ago #63
It's clear MorbidButterflyTat 13 hrs ago #64
Sorry, but she needs to get out more. She hasn't heard about imposter syndrome from white men RockRaven 13 hrs ago #67
It's a fact that some white men are more insecure or less fortunate than some black men. Doodley 13 hrs ago #70
I adore her but she's wrong in this. I think most white men suffer from this Iris 12 hrs ago #80
I don't get the furor misanthrope 10 hrs ago #85
*headdesk* Does she even know what it is? sakabatou 6 hrs ago #89
I don't by any means sit at the kind of elite tables she's talking about. Jedi Guy 4 hrs ago #91
Michelle apparently never talked to a white man like my boyfriend. Boyfriend said Raine 1 hr ago #92
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