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Skittles

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55. I think it's very naive to assume it never happens to white men

Tue Jun 2, 2026, 04:56 PM

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of course, there is a HUGE difference in that (except for white gay men) they've never had the added stress of being historically excluded. because of gender and / or race

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"I've never heard a white man talk about impostor syndrome. I haven't met one." [View all] malaise 11 hrs ago OP

Perhaps, the White Men don't understand the imposter syndrum. chouchou 11 hrs ago #1

I love Michelle, but yeah... NO. I suffer from that almost every day. Happy Hoosier 11 hrs ago #2

Yes there are non-elite white men malaise 11 hrs ago #6

It was clear H2O Man 10 hrs ago #22

Agree malaise 9 hrs ago #30

Please explain it then, is she only talking the upper crust hoity toity stuff? questionseverything 9 hrs ago #33

"at every powerful table there is" H2O Man 8 hrs ago #59

Respectfully, she sits at the highest table. mr715 7 hrs ago #66

I'm fine with H2O Man 7 hrs ago #68

I assume no one sits near those tables. mr715 7 hrs ago #69

Right. H2O Man 7 hrs ago #75

I'm not understanding something. mr715 7 hrs ago #79

Okay. H2O Man 3 hrs ago #86

Thank you for taking the time to write this reply to help me understand mr715 3 hrs ago #87

Thank you H2O Man 1 hr ago #88

This is a perfect example of white privilege: Celerity 7 hrs ago #82

That's great H2O Man 6 hrs ago #84

She sat at dinner tables not the meeting table... questionseverything 7 hrs ago #73

Oh H2O Man 7 hrs ago #76

The Obama White House was pretty transparent about what the president and first family were doing questionseverything 7 hrs ago #78

Well yes, she could have. H2O Man 7 hrs ago #81

This message was self-deleted by its author questionseverything 7 hrs ago #74

Name one time H2O Man 7 hrs ago #77

I think that you are not alone. I understand what Michrlle means, but wnylib 9 hrs ago #26

ironically in my work -- the imposters never seem to feel like imposters. just arrogant POS JT45242 9 hrs ago #31

Agree that impostors nevrr seem to feel like impostors. wnylib 9 hrs ago #36

Absolutely... furthermore... Happy Hoosier 9 hrs ago #32

But did THEY acknowledge that they were impostors is the question... live love laugh 21 min ago #90

Totally agree. Michelle may not know many working class white men. johnnyplankton 9 hrs ago #45

You just described me genxlib 8 hrs ago #56

I'm a white man getting a Ph.D. in neurobiology mr715 11 hrs ago #3

Similar here but working in higher level technology OC375 10 hrs ago #25

Just be glad your not a white dumbass, like me! Doodley 7 hrs ago #71

I'm a white dumbass. mr715 7 hrs ago #72

I appreciate her candor MustLoveBeagles 11 hrs ago #4

Funny that it's resulted in some reasoned TheProle 8 hrs ago #53

She needs to meet more people Renew Deal 11 hrs ago #5

I'm black but a disagree. tman 11 hrs ago #7

Trmp at a Mensa meeting would feel that he was among a whole bunch of imposters. nt eppur_se_muova 11 hrs ago #8

Yup. Kid Berwyn 11 hrs ago #9

Right! H2O Man 10 hrs ago #24

Well, she certainly hasn't met everyone. BlueTsunami2018 10 hrs ago #10

Hanks has it because deep down, he knows Peter Scolari was the better actor on "bosom buddies" unblock 10 hrs ago #13

I've seen astronauts discuss it Sympthsical 10 hrs ago #15

"When they go low..." mr715 10 hrs ago #19

during my work years i occasionally felt like i was faking it. rampartd 10 hrs ago #11

So that's what it's called... NewHendoLib 10 hrs ago #12

She doesn't appear to have any close white male friends Bok_Tukalo 10 hrs ago #14

Hi, Mrs. Obama. I'm Aristus. Nice to meet you. I am a great admirer of you and your husband. Aristus 10 hrs ago #16

. mr715 10 hrs ago #18

All those unqualified white morons in the current administration Americanme 10 hrs ago #17

I wish there was a pill? Prairie_Seagull 10 hrs ago #20

Ah, sweet Xanax... mr715 8 hrs ago #60

He may not talk about it, but our so-called President has deep insecurity about not being good enough, good looking Sogo 10 hrs ago #21

And he has never forgiven the New York elites for not malaise 9 hrs ago #28

Exactly. He will never admit to it, but some tiny part of him... 3catwoman3 9 hrs ago #38

Then she should meet me nuxvomica 10 hrs ago #23

Recommended. H2O Man 9 hrs ago #27

I read it Sympthsical 9 hrs ago #35

Thank you. I respect Ms Obama, but this is some tone-deaf shit TheProle 9 hrs ago #42

Oh hell, I'm there Sympthsical 9 hrs ago #44

Kudos on the courage for a career change TheProle 8 hrs ago #47

Congrats. mr715 8 hrs ago #51

No thank you. H2O Man 8 hrs ago #54

retirement freed me from imposter syndrome mike_c 9 hrs ago #29

No offense to her, but I'm guessing she's not really in the same circles as white men who experience imposter syndrome. WhiskeyGrinder 9 hrs ago #34

In creative circles, that's pretty much everyone. C_U_L8R 9 hrs ago #37

It's the difference between being welcome at the table dlk 9 hrs ago #39

I'll admit to the imposter syndrome BeneteauBum 9 hrs ago #40

OK, I looked it up Skittles 8 hrs ago #46

Thanks Skittles BeneteauBum 8 hrs ago #62

yup Skittles 7 hrs ago #83

I wanted to be an estuary ecologist when I was in college. mr715 8 hrs ago #57

It was a rewarding career BeneteauBum 8 hrs ago #65

Both my youngest son and I, white men have experienced it. NNadir 9 hrs ago #41

IIRC, when asked if she was ever intimidated by these meetings, she said, "No, they're not all that smart." OMGWTF 9 hrs ago #43

Maybe Michelle Obama had a different meaning FakeNoose 8 hrs ago #48

I hate to say this: PCIntern 8 hrs ago #49

She hasn't talked to me. Hassler 8 hrs ago #50

Sorry Mrs Obama ironman99 8 hrs ago #52

I think it's very naive to assume it never happens to white men Skittles 8 hrs ago #55

Well, I've never heard a black woman talk about impostor syndrome. Intractable 8 hrs ago #58

That's hyperbolic, and may be true in her experience, but not universally true. Ursus Rex 8 hrs ago #61

Huge gaffe... gulliver 8 hrs ago #63

It's clear MorbidButterflyTat 8 hrs ago #64

Sorry, but she needs to get out more. She hasn't heard about imposter syndrome from white men RockRaven 7 hrs ago #67

It's a fact that some white men are more insecure or less fortunate than some black men. Doodley 7 hrs ago #70

I adore her but she's wrong in this. I think most white men suffer from this Iris 7 hrs ago #80

I don't get the furor misanthrope 5 hrs ago #85

*headdesk* Does she even know what it is? sakabatou 59 min ago #89