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"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." [View all]

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Just heard that in a Youtube video discussing divorces that the husbands swear, "came out of nowhere."

I'm sharing it here because it is a powerhouse of truth packed into one clear sentence.

Edit: Since this topic has garnered some interest, I will go ahead and include the Youtube video from which I quoted. It is nearly an hour long and not every person speaking or presenting information is a clear-minded or as succinct as the quote, but the pain and disappointment and reality is there to see.

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"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." [View all] Collimator 22 hrs ago OP

Bookmarked!!! IA8IT 22 hrs ago #1

Most Women sit around watching "A brighter Day" ..polishing their nails... chouchou 22 hrs ago #2

What is "A brighter Day"? TIA Celerity 20 hrs ago #15

A reference to the "soap operas" that women supposedly have nothing niyad 19 hrs ago #16

never heard of it Celerity 19 hrs ago #20

I had never heard of that one, either, so I looked it up. Wayyyyyyyyyy niyad 19 hrs ago #23

One of the ridiculous daytime Dramas that could have wasted one's life away. chouchou 16 hrs ago #37

I've never been a huge fan PatSeg 6 hrs ago #47

Unfortunately, Your words are True. chouchou 5 hrs ago #49

And guess what types of people PatSeg 4 hrs ago #50

My husband and I were invited to a dinner, the first time we saw that.. chouchou 38 min ago #60

Do you remember ... oldsoldierfadingfast 10 min ago #62

Will the Democrats campaign on that issue? MustLoveBeagles 22 hrs ago #3

Symptom of a bigger issue Lithos 21 hrs ago #5

Yes it is. OldBaldy1701E 9 hrs ago #42

A smart candidate would Jilly_in_VA 3 hrs ago #52

Spot on. Raven123 21 hrs ago #4

So Far Timewas 21 hrs ago #6

Until the 70's, women could do little financially on their own. paleotn 19 hrs ago #25

Yep. My mother won't bank with one of the major American banks because of a grudge related to that. RockRaven 18 hrs ago #31

Same thing happened to my spouse in 1986 Farmer-Rick 7 hrs ago #44

I lived those days Lifeafter70 18 hrs ago #33

BTW StoolPigeon 21 hrs ago #7

Oh right... men have nothing but problems getting a lawyer! ihaveaquestion 21 hrs ago #9

Dear Goddess, it is very disappointing to see that sort of thing on a niyad 20 hrs ago #12

Being a single parent H2O Man 19 hrs ago #19

Lawyers won't take your money? Oh really. paleotn 19 hrs ago #26

Sounds serious Torchlight 18 hrs ago #28

Men can't afford lawyers? johnp3907 17 hrs ago #35

And play mommy with benefits to an adult spouse. xuplate 21 hrs ago #8

OMG! After spending all day trying to find the wallet slightlv 19 hrs ago #17

huggggggggs, my friend. Your DU family is here, so lean as hard as niyad 19 hrs ago #21

I feel it for you malaise 19 hrs ago #22

So sorry. paleotn 18 hrs ago #27

We are here for you, V SheltieLover 18 hrs ago #30

If you have a healthcare provider you regularly talk to Sympthsical 18 hrs ago #32

Thanks... slightlv 15 hrs ago #38

So pleased to hear this Sympthsical 15 hrs ago #40

Same here in reverse - playing parent to a 5 year old wife who is 82. Aussie105 14 hrs ago #41

I hear you. Friends we've had for 20 years slightlv 1 hr ago #59

A humble suggestion ... if he keeps losing his wallet FakeNoose 7 hrs ago #45

Slightly... CousinIT 7 hrs ago #46

Is the VA program mesnt for the vet who's the slightlv 1 hr ago #58

The VA Caregiver Support Program is for caregivers of veterans CousinIT 24 min ago #61

I feel for you; I went thru the dementia caretaker twice. The first time was with my mother. state of stupid 2 hrs ago #55

my brother coached the men's company softball team Skittles 20 hrs ago #10

Was watching a comedy routine Nittersing 5 hrs ago #48

And then get no credit for either and blamed for everything Tumbulu 20 hrs ago #11

And that is putting it VERY politely. niyad 20 hrs ago #13

Unless you believe the "rumors" that Harris actually won. Which I do. slightlv 19 hrs ago #18

I mean...everyone is. It's just that women, for the most part, picked up the slack for some time, and now are not. WhiskeyGrinder 20 hrs ago #14

As a single father who raised three daughters BeneteauBum 19 hrs ago #24

Thank you so much for including the video link. I will look at it later, niyad 18 hrs ago #29

"Women are expected to work like they have no children and parent like they have no job." DET 17 hrs ago #34

GREAT and VERY TRUE line! Jack Valentino 17 hrs ago #36

"The mental load" women try to explain to men that they are carrying the mental load BlueWaveNeverEnd 15 hrs ago #39

Yep. Diamond_Dog 4 hrs ago #51

Women marry a man with kids and are shocked when he shifts all child care to him BlueWaveNeverEnd 2 hrs ago #57

And society suffers from the epidemic of unparented kids. live love laugh 8 hrs ago #43

My wife and I just passed 30 years of marriage in March of this year... Moostache 3 hrs ago #53

Elizabeth Warren points out the "two-income trap"... gulliver 3 hrs ago #54

I think the biggest problem is the exploitative nature of work now. LT Barclay 2 hrs ago #56