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slightlv

(8,174 posts)
30. Ye Gods! Does this fit!!!
Mon Jun 22, 2026, 11:34 AM
16 hrs ago

I have wondered over the few years I've retired WHAT I could have done or said differently to avoid taking early retirement. I could never come up with anything. I presented evidence of my high productivity while working at home in several different formats; some even trackable by the office's own IT systems.

My coworker and I still collaborated constantly, whether I was at home or in the office. We were the only two responsible for the work we did, so there was no one else to worry about collaborating with. And I swore I'd make it to the office for any administration and or coordination meetings.

Beyond all that, everything I did on my job was done on WiFi. It didn't go to the office's or DoD network; it went directly into Amazon Cloud Services, which hosted our Blackboard. While at home, my wifi was fast and efficient. The one at my DoD office was slow and unreliable; as more often than not, it would be down (along with the rest of the network!).

I didn't ask for all work for home; only a flexible, partial week. I have both lupus and fibromyalgia. Depending on which was hurting me the worse, I'd either not be able to drag myself out of bed, or I'd be in joint pain from feet up to neck. And that doesn't take into account the bathroom effects.

Reading this finally puts the last puzzle piece into place. *Of course* it was narcissistic personality managing it all behind the scenes. Add to that a direct supervisor who was conflict-averse (except with women, of course) and that's the ball of wax right there. The DoD, like so much of military still, is a man's world. Men would regularly come in late, work offsite, or get flexible hours. Women were NOT granted the same leeway, even though we were veterans (although we needed it more). The number of auto-immune diseases in my female coworkers were off the scale, and even the one who got a "terminal" diagnosis couldn't get our dept manager to okay even a hybrid situation for her.

HOW men ever got the status quo image of "manly, strong, stoic, and reasonable" is a wonder to me. So many I've found to be arrogant, bossy, and narcissistic... or just afraid of making waves. I often wonder how these retired military men ever made it through their wars alive!

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Absolutely bucolic_frolic 19 hrs ago #1
some managers have limited capabilities; desk checks is one of them. dem4decades 19 hrs ago #2
Hey, it's not easy to sit in your office and track worker's bathroom trips Orrex 18 hrs ago #5
Or snag an unfortunate employee just passing by your office YodaMom2 17 hrs ago #25
Sometimes I'm gone to the bathroom so long, the inevitable question arises: True Dough 6 hrs ago #52
I've had managers in corporate settings whose only discernible function was to call meetings and waste everyone's time. sop 19 hrs ago #3
... Wednesdays 14 hrs ago #38
Republicans love home schooling but don't want their workers to work from home?? Yeah, there's a in2herbs 18 hrs ago #4
indoctrinate their offspring. no outside thoughts dave99 17 hrs ago #20
"No outside thoughts" Shipwack 17 hrs ago #28
Yep! Ego. ZDU 18 hrs ago #6
Clearly, There Are Some Jobs... ProfessorGAC 18 hrs ago #7
was this article about you ? dave99 17 hrs ago #22
Huh? ProfessorGAC 17 hrs ago #27
I appreciate this article; its thesis was clear before the pandemic even ended Orrex 18 hrs ago #8
The movie, Office Space, comes to mind. Sequoia 16 hrs ago #32
Definitely! Orrex 14 hrs ago #39
Having a narcissist boss is awful. I got to experience it sadly. Oneironaut 18 hrs ago #9
So many CEOs are sociopaths. My boss was the owner's son and a real SOB. OMGWTF 11 hrs ago #42
"Owners son" - No words are more terrifying. Ugh! Oneironaut 9 hrs ago #44
The most efficient business model is multigraincracker 18 hrs ago #10
Employee owned businesses don't have a CEO? MichMan 17 hrs ago #19
They don't have overpaid CEOs multigraincracker 16 hrs ago #33
Only $3.4 million MichMan 15 hrs ago #34
Does he need an assistant manager at half price? DFW 3 hrs ago #57
In my experience, it was also about trust nuxvomica 18 hrs ago #11
Well, I did have employees who shirked work from home. Easterncedar 7 hrs ago #49
It's all about control. n/t area51 18 hrs ago #12
That, and they have long term leases on Brick and Mortar Bristlecone 18 hrs ago #13
Might be more to it. Business analysts saw that a CRE meltdown could result in a broad financial crisis lostnfound 18 hrs ago #14
Great. Now we have found out that some of our Bosses are like Donald Trump. chouchou 17 hrs ago #15
My kid had, and still has, the option of working from home, but he didn't like it, so he went back to his office at Raftergirl 17 hrs ago #16
Yes, personally I prefer a hybrid schedule TexasBushwhacker 17 hrs ago #21
my condolences on his touch of narcissism dave99 16 hrs ago #29
Well... Raftergirl 14 hrs ago #36
In a different situation, I would have been like your kid RandomNumbers 8 hrs ago #48
Can only speak for myself. In 2012 Joinfortmill 17 hrs ago #17
I have 3 family members working from home Tree Lady 17 hrs ago #26
The Galley master needs people to whip. Old Crank 17 hrs ago #18
Watching people drive in LA traffic to the office Johonny 17 hrs ago #23
It depends on the working environment MichMan 17 hrs ago #24
I sympathize with this 100%... Moostache 16 hrs ago #31
Work from home intelpug 4 hrs ago #56
Ye Gods! Does this fit!!! slightlv 16 hrs ago #30
I disagree with the premise of this genxlib 15 hrs ago #35
Reductive analysis. maxsolomon 14 hrs ago #37
If I remember your profile genxlib 12 hrs ago #40
I worked from home, exclusively since 2002 forthemiddle 11 hrs ago #41
Illustrates the disconnect between the blue collar working class and elites MichMan 10 hrs ago #43
Covid change the work environment LogDog75 9 hrs ago #45
Most mid-level managers add absolutely nothing to organizations. waterwatcher123 8 hrs ago #46
T-rump, narcissist extraordinaire, ordered federal remote workers back to offices. Wicked Blue 8 hrs ago #47
Technology in the 90s made remote work possible. I used to work at home a lot, but still OAITW r.2.0 7 hrs ago #50
Turf. Telework means employees are on their home turf. underpants 7 hrs ago #51
My experience frequently mirrored the scenarios described in the article, BUT Pinback 6 hrs ago #53
Don't forget the real estate incentives. paulkienitz 5 hrs ago #54
They also think you're not actually working Figarosmom 4 hrs ago #55
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