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[noamnety]

140. I might be overstating it

and it might be generational, too.

Definitely paying for dates was a guy thing when I was younger. One male privilege was that dads taught sons how to do car maintenance, how to change tires and change the oil. It was way less common for daughters to be taught those skills. So men save way more money by having the skills to fix or maintain vehicles, and even at a repair shop women are overcharged because it's assumed men might know enough to recognize that they're being scammed.

On the privilege side for women, if we're stuck with car trouble, it's common to assume a guy will bail us out, come change our tire for example. It's a privilege to not have to do it - and also a curse. A pet peeve of mine is when a young woman calls her dad to come change a flat, and instead of showing her how to do it he just does it himself. It's in the category of giving us a fish instead of teaching us to fish, it keeps us dependent on men.